Friday 5 June 2015

MBTI Stuff #8: Just Passing Time

     I'm listening to a bunch of Japanese bands right now and I must say, I really like the GazettE. I mean if we were referring to J-Pop, then Arashi will always be my favourite, but as far as J-Rock goes, I love the GazettE. Visual Kei Rock is probably a weird genre to Westerners, because of the "Visual Kei" part.

Visual Kei is a movement among Japanese musicians, that is characterised by the use of varying levels of make-up, elaborate hair styles and flamboyant costumes, often, but not always, coupled with androgynous aesthetics.

     Besides the GazettE, the other Visual Kei Rock band I listen to a lot is SID, probably because they sang that awesome opening for Bleach that I really love. I know this post is supposed to be for MBTI, but I want to start off with 3 songs, one from the GazettE, one from SID and one from YUI, because she's awesome.

1. Chizuru (Thousand Cranes) by the GazettE


2. Ranbu no Melody (Melody of the Wild Dance) by SID [Bleach Opening 13]


3. Rolling Star by YUI [Bleach Opening 5] (Song Begins at 3.00)


      Ah~ YUI is so cool! She's the singer for Fullmetal Alchemist Opening 1 too, and that's an awesome song. Also, it's funny how I've memorised the entire lyrics for Rolling Star despite it being a super quick and rap-like song, but I can't memorise my school work. Yeah, Japanese lyrics are easier to remember than English words. Sure.

1. MBTI and Stress Causes
1. ISTJ
     In other words, I don't just cause stress in ISTJ, I am the definition of stress for an ISTJ. Seriously? Why are these people so rigid? It's okay to deviate from routine once in a while, man, you need to learn how to chill and do things differently. Isn't it boring going through the same damn routine everyday? Also, rules and regulations are not exactly meant to be broken, but at the same time, they were established by people who are as flawed as the rest of us are. It's okay to break a rule once in a while unless you hurt other people.

2. ISFJ
     Huh, as the friend of an ISFJ, this makes me feel quite guilty now. I'm not extremely decisive person, mostly because I don't enjoy making decisions without being well-informed. That is also why a particular ISFJ gets very annoyed at me when I change my mind about someone every 2 seconds (it's more like 2 days, but still). Come on! I don't know the person entirely - you can't know a person completely - so of course it's fair for me to change my opinion if they prove it wrong! But that's also why I keep making the same mistakes because I let people off for doing certain things just because I often feel like they don't mean it. ISFJ is just like "Girl, just ditch him/her! Make up your mind already!"

3. INTJ
     Yeah, INTJ has already made a red mark in their report just based on this. Focus on "talk about our feelings". Unwillingness to discuss feelings or emotions often leads to a person ending up in a more distant relationship with me. I want to know your honest feelings and I swear I will not take advantage of your emotions. I'm not that kind of person so would you please stop acting like a weirdo and tell me what's up already? Everything else is not that bad, but it does give me a feeling of that kind of uncompromising and rigid sort of person.

4. INFJ
     I'm surprised that mine showed up this early, which just means I'm going to be quite bored going through the rest. Anyway, I think some of these aren't really that true...perhaps they do stress me out but not to huge extents. Not being appreciated for "making a difference" is fine, if I assume "appreciation" to mean "displays of appreciation". I would very much like to see the difference I make succeed, but I don't need credit for it. Short-sighted people who cannot see beyond their own needs into the larger humanitarian needs just frustrate me, generally, because it's very hard for us to even argue on the same basis. If you prioritise self-preservation, I can't blame you because it's how humans have managed to survive, after all, but it doesn't make communication easy. 

     But things that really stress me out are here too. Lack of closure is one important aspect and that has been mentioned in the INFJ Love overview somewhere. It is mentioned that an INFJ falls out of love very easily if there is clear closure. In other words, if INFJ gets pissed off with someone who violates their values and seek no repentance, it is very easy for the INFJ to distance themselves if the intent to hurt is clear. However, because INFJs are such suckers for conspiracy theories and "what if"s, we often don't find closure anywhere. 

     Some other ones that may be surprisingly would be "let's go around the circle and share" and "inflexible work environment". The first one may be surprising because INFJs are known as counsellors, so why don't they want to go around the circle and share? Because we, at least I, find that kind of activity very forceful and intrusive, uncomfortable and threatening. Going around a circle and telling people to introduce themselves is a perfect formula for forming false first impressions. The second one is surprising because it seems to contradict with our dislike for "disorder". There is a fine difference between "order" and "inflexibility". Order must be kept in the emotional sense of ensuring harmony, but in terms of work environment and things like that, inflexibility bores an INFJ real fast. 

     There's really too much to go through but most of them are quite accurate, just that they stress me to different extents.

5. ISTP
     This is very true disfor my mom. She gets extremely pissy when I try to force certain rules and regulations upon her, like not crossing the road when the light isn't green. She sees my view of that as rigid, but I just see no need. If you're not rushing for time and the lights are not broken, can you just please wait and be patient? She thinks I'm being too dependent on rules, I think she's breaking rules without the necessity to. My mom also dislikes looking at situation in an emotional way, which is why I often just end up going on family outings which are highly uncomfortable and awkward. She's like "put up with it" and I'm just like "I'll try, but I would break down when I reach home, so please give me some alone time once we're back.". 

6. ISFP
     Are these those cute and fluffy bunnies again? Those that I felt a sudden surge of protectiveness over? Yeah, probably. I think the ISFPs stressors are too general, because these are stressors that would affect any type. Disregarding a person's need, emotional and practical, is often a formula for creating immense dissatisfaction. Time pressure and too much happening can also stress any person out, but it depends on the level of tolerance, I guess. INFJs can work under time pressure (and sometimes I actually need the pressure to get me to do things), but when that pressure is too great and the time limit is too short, it can also stress us out. So, in general, I think whatever stresses out the ISFP would stress anyone out, but they are probably easier to stress out than the rest.

7. INTP
     Socialising. That is so true. It takes an entire frigging army to get my dad to socialise with anyone and he's the kind of person who can lock himself away for years without needing company. In fact, whenever there are people going door to door, he often gets me to go answer because he doesn't want to. When we go out for food as a family, my mom and I order because he's quite hesitant for some reason. Also, INTPs get offended by people going against them, and my dad is like the extreme of that. If my arguments are emotional or humanitarian with no scientific or logical backing and I'm going against him, I've learnt to shut up and just let him say what he wants because no matter how tactful I am, he isn't going to listen. 

8. INFP
     See, this is why I thought that INFP and ISFJ really wouldn't have worked out. Both of them are very typical of their types. The ISFJ wants order and decisiveness, the ability to stick to a decision that was made. INFPs are stressed out by decision-making, need for time management and anything that requires them to make a decision fast. ISFJs are practical and while they do care for other's feelings, they would still express their unhappiness. INFPs, unlike INFJs, do not like to intake other people unhappiness, but would rather express their own. So when people voice unhappiness towards them, they get extremely hurt and unlike INFJs, they will show that hurt openly. INFJs will dig a hole and sit it in while sulking, INFPs will tell you exactly how much you have hurt them. And that isn't something I don't have evidence for.

9. ESTP
      This is why ESTPs are playboys, isn't it? They are stressed out by commitments, really? I rather like commitments, if I'm the one who chose to take them up. Commitment isn't a nice way to put it, because for ESTPs, the commitments refer to relationship commitments. From my point of view, if you have a commitment in a relationship, it means that you are valued enough by the other party to hold that commitment and that's an honour. Other stressors are common and not that surprising but this entire notion of being stressed out by commitments is just confusing. I mean if it's work commitments that I did not sign up for, then it's fine, but relationship commitments? You better fulfill them.

10. ESFP
     ESFPs are not my favourite type, because they tend to be loud, obnoxious and quite insensitive (because of the lack of N). However, I seem to be able to relate to their stressors, or at the very least, understand and sympathise. Once again, the part on commitments. What's with ESxPs being unable to stand the idea of being committed? It doesn't kill you to stick to someone you care for and I'm sure that person would be willing to give you space if you'd ask. In fact if someone wants me to stick to them, then I'm honoured to know that they think I'm that capable. Maybe these people are just such free souls that I cannot understand them.

11. ENTP
     Okay, at this point, I really need to ask: looking at these stressors, how did anyone think ENTP x INFJ was a good idea? I saw the "focusing on personal problems" right away. INFJs do not like to talk about personal problems, yes, but I've also reached a stage where I realise that INFJs feel too strongly to be able to hide away their emotions forever. It's unsustainable, it's unhealthy, and mostly importantly, the negative effects will bleed into people around you. If ENTPs are such great partners for INFJs, then they need to be able to take the INFJs personal problems once in a while. Also, give that INFJs fear burdening others with their problems, the more unwilling a person seems, the further they retreat behind their mask. Still, I think that ENTPs do have the potential of developing sensitivity to others, as seen from the one ENTP I know.

12. ENFP
     This is the other MBTI that supposedly goes well with INFJs. Once again, this doesn't look very good. I'm not the type to demand for rules to be set over relationships, but there has to be some unsaid rules that are kept - very basic things like caring for each other and understanding and not hiding your emotions because I want to help you, etc. Endless detail is also a problem because while I dislike too much detail, there is a need for details in certain areas, such as research. When I tell my theories to others, there will be a lot of details involved, if I'm sincerely interested in promoting my stand. ENFPs will probably be like "just summarise that, skip the details". Also, note: micromanaging and distrust - "distrust". I'm sorry, it's inherently part of the INFJ personality to be suspicious and distrustful. I don't think you mean harm but we may take offence to things too easily (our fault really). So once again, how does this pairing work?

13. ESTJ
     What, is this just a rip-off of ISTJ? Seems like it. I guess while ISTJ will be judging you silently and noting everything you do wrongly in their head, the ESTJ will actual come to you and tell you that you are being a piece of shit. So basically the ESTJ vocalises everything the ISTJ keeps in their head? Sounds like an E-I pair without that much difference really. I mean, just scroll up and compare. They don't have that many differences.

14. ESFJ
     Yeah I guess this is quite true. I know for sure that ESFJs need emotional support and while they don't come off as needy people, because ExFJs just generally don't seem very needy, ESFJs have a tendency to look as if they are moodswinging real fast. No, it's not a moodswing, you just happened to poke your finger at an extrasensitive spot. I suggest you recap what you just said and take it right back before I go over there and make you take it back. I think that while ESFJ may be just seen as an extroverted ISFJ, they seem to hold much more stock for being appreciated and being shown sensitivity, but maybe that's part of being extroverted. I think I'm pretty good at handling ESFJs either way.

15. ENTJ
     I have expressed numerous times how I do not want to find myself in the company of ENTJs because they seem quite tyrannical to me. They are proud and they think they are so very competent, looking down on those who don't meet their standards. I think it's a very harsh way to view the world and the people around yourself. ENTJs also demand so much from the people around them that I think most of their stressors are inflicted by their unfair judgement of the world. Still, I don't think they can help it, just like how INFJs cannot help their insecurities. 

16. ENFJ
     I somehow feel like this can be swapped with INFJ and I would believe it. I guess it makes sense since INFJ, as the most extroverted Introverts, lie too close to the border between Introversion and Extroversion to show that much difference from their ENFJ cousins. But make no mistake, we are still introverted and while seclusion can make an INFJ extremely frustrated, you take that frustration and multiply by 10 and you would get the ENFJ's frustration in the same isolated situation. Also, it seems like the INFJ, probably because of their Introversion, get more stressed out by the people around them than ENFJs. INFJ intake too much and doesn't have many avenues to let out the steam. ENFJs are Extroverts and thus are much more likely to be able to release whatever negativity they absorbed from others.

2. MBTI Under Stress
1. ESTP
     Owing to their drive for excitement, ESTPs are often unaware of the long-term consequences of their actions. Not understanding the far-reaching implications of their behaviours, ESTPs often find themselves as odds with friends, colleagues, and employers. A quick-fix mentality and strong improvisational skills cannot always compensate for the long-term disappointments resulting from short-sighted planning. ESTPs are tough-minded and may appear insensitive when resourceful shortcuts fail to impress a taskmaster. They can quickly become defiant. Those unfortunate enough to be on the receiving end of an ESTP's anger or retaliation may soon find that they have a tiger by the tail. If they lose the opportunity to act freely on their impulses, ESTPs abuse rules and regulation laid down by others in an attempt to regain a sense of excitement.

     If confinement continues, an ESTP's stress increases. They feel empty and hollow inside, as if dead to the world. Their first impulse is to seek revenge by mocking other people's values. They become increasingly anti-social and ridicule others with startling displays of disdainful behaviour. By causing a scene, ESTPs rejuvenate their fading spirits and at the same time punish their oppressors. Like all SPs under stress, ESTPs get even by undoing the barriers to freedom, especially through gaining the trust and cooperation of others.

2. ESFP
     ESFP's need to socialise with others may create difficulties at work or school. Their tendency to over-emphasise subjective data can cause problems in structured situations. Like all SPs, ESFPs resist regulations and they can become quite defiant when their sense of freedom is violated. Their disregard for standard procedures will take the form of passive resistance and ESFPs usually develop many skills to annoy the people they blame for their loss of liberty. ESFPs are prone to neglecting time-limits and situations requiring organised goals; under such circumstances, ESFPs will become bored and restless, and will quickly develop a feeling of emptiness.

     If a stress situation endures, ESFPs will respond against others by mistreating themselves and acquiring habits that are self-destructive. Feeling empty, restless and bored, ESFPs may experience a regression of their skills, graceful movements and maturity. ESFPs penalise those responsible for obstructing their freedom while, at the same time, they restore excitement back into their own lives. Having not obtained freedom through appropriate behaviour, ESFPs overwhelmed with stress will behave in ways that are unproductive to themselves and others.

3. ESTJ
     ESTJs fear a bankrupt nation that abandons its heritage and its obligation to a prescribed set of standards. Like all SJs, ESTJs feel the need to earn their place in a just society. ESTJs believe that membership is ensured through responsible serving and the threat of being forsaken or cast out will make them feel insecure. They will worry about dereliction of duties and betrayal. The resulting stress can cause ESTJs to redouble their efforts at controlling disorder. In an effort to correct what they feel is out of place, they will direct their anger and frustration at what they consider the irresponsible behaviour of others. At these times, others may feel the ESTJ is not responsive to their point of view and is jumping to unjustified conclusions.

     If stress continues, the ESTJ may become physically immobilised and experience illness, unpleasant bodily sensations and fatigue. Feeling incapacitated, the ESTJ dreads the thought of being deserted and begins to feel increasingly unappreciated and left out. Their grievance list usually includes those whom they are responsible; thus it may appear that the ESTJ is neglecting their own obligations by blaming others. While exempting themselves from their responsibilities, the ESTJ may henpeck and nag others. This can cause those who feel hindered by the ESTJ's complaints to feel defiant and to rebel further.

4. ESFJ
     The social status of successful people can be quite alluring to ESFJs and many marry prosperous mates and encourage them to accumulate the material signs of prosperity. Other ESFJs seem to fit in with the poor and needy. In either case, their dependability, dedication and commitment to providing for the needs of others is, at times, overlooked. This can lead to the ESFJ feeling unappreciated and neglected. They can harbour uncomfortable feelings, which they then feel guilty and shameful about, and then they find themselves suffering from emotional denial.

     If stress continues, the ESFJ will begin to feel dejected and despondent. A sense of gloom seems to be attached to their memories and the ESFJ fosters feelings of self-blame and guilt about certain past experiences. Always conscious of a sense of indebtedness, the ESFJ feels generally remorseful and may regret imagined woes. If stress becomes overwhelming, ESFJs will complain of their burdens, suspect dreadful things about their health, become critical of others who have "betrayed" them and become generally melancholic. The ESFJ feels forsaken after all they have put up with and done for others. Their complaints immobilise so they are unable to nurture others or fulfill their demanding obligations. 

5. ENTP
     ENTPs value their ability to use imagination and innovation to deal with problems. Trusting in their ingenuity to get them out of trouble, they often neglect to prepare sufficiently for any given situation. This characteristic, combined with their tendency to underestimate the time needed to complete a project, may cause the ENTP to become over-extended and to work frequently beyond expected time limits. Complicating this situation is their predisposition to experiment with new solutions. This makes them eager to move on to the next challenge when things get boring. ENTPs become stressed when their improvisational abilities are ineffective and they will avoid circumstances where they might fail.

     If stress continues, ENTPs become distracted and their "can do" attitude is threatened. Feelings of incompetence, ineptness and inadequacy take over. The need to escape situations that are associated with anxiety is more prominent for the ENTP than for any other personality type. Doubtful of whether they will have what it takes to accomplish a task, they displace their fears onto situations they can elude. Panic, fear and anxiety then block the expression of their creativity. Defensive phobic reactions cause the ENTP to circumvent achievement in other areas and prevent the success they strive on.

6. ENTJ
     ENTJs can get ahead of themselves and jump to conclusions in their efforts to get things done. They may need to be reminded to take the time to listen to other points of view. Being tough-minded, ENTJs have a tendency to ignore their own and others' feelings. With a burning desire to achieve -- and a constant eye on how current decision will effect end results -- ENTJs may become overly argumentative when obstacles get in their way. Small talk and casual conversations appear frivolous and without merit when projects are at hand. This, along with the NT's nature of being impervious to social conventions and customs, can cause others to feel affronted.

     When ENTJs sense that they are losing control, they feel an increasing need for completion. If stress continues, they become distracted by a compelling "got to" and "have to" state of mind. Their need to master a situation then becomes misdirected and they engage in compulsive behaviours that preoccupy their attention and time. Feeling helpless and lacking confidence, they resort to completing simple, meaningless, repetitive tasks (i.e. cleaning, counting, inspecting) in an effort to avoid a growing sense of failure. By avoiding ineptitude at all costs, their competence and ability are never fully tested. Ironically, these all-consuming distractions are the very behaviours that prevent ENTJs from fulfilling their basic need for achievement and improvement.

7. ENFP
     ENFPs have a tendency to overextend themselves in both their physical and emotional commitments. Their proclivity to procrastinate and to overlook details complicates their circumstances. ENFPs often move on to new ventures without completing those they have already started. Their charming personalities can show signs of irritability and over-sensitivity when their desires to please different people come into conflict. During times of stress, ENFPs feel alienated. They then engage in deceptions that serve to obscure what is occurring within themselves.

     The ENFP finds symbolic meanings behind the immediate circumstances. These meanings are construed as foreboding problems when ENFPs are under stress. Having a pervasive feeling of losing control over their own independent identities, ENFPs will feel virtually split apart by intruding circumstances. They will be "besides themselves" and "just not all there" -- as if something, or someone, has taken away the essence of who they are. Not feeling like themselves, the ENFP will become subject to their feelings of shame for being a phony, a fake or an imposter. If stress continues to grow, they may attribute malevolent schemes to others in order to explain away their fears.

8. ENFJ
     The ENFJs optimistic outlook towards social relationships is a burden to them at times. When external conflicts affect a group, the ENFJ is likely to assume responsibility. Their ability to empathise then turns into a liability. ENFJs, when over-identifying with the pain of others, will lose sight of their own concerns and interests. Their idealism can also be the cause of some distress when their assumptions are unable to weather the winds of reality. Fantasised relationships rarely translate into reality and even the best charismatic leader encounters unexpected resistance. 

      Like all NFs, ENFJs will disassociate themselves from stressful situations in an effort to protect their sense of well-being and togetherness. The ENFJ, however, will repress the unpleasant side of life only to have to fact it later in an intensified form when it explodes from its hiding place. It can manifest itself as fits of anger, sudden outbursts or emotional explosions. Often the ENFJ's body will reflect pent-up stress by manifesting various physical symptoms that will erupt unexpectedly. 

9. ISTP
     ISTPs value privacy and sometimes keep important issues to themselves. Their concern for the present moment and their inability to recognise the importance of setting goals often lead them into conflict with authority. Being action-oriented, ISTPs react against restrictions -- which typically causes the controls placed on them to increase. In these situations, boredom can quickly set in and the ISTP may experience feelings of internal emptiness. Overly regulated situations cause ISTPs stress. In such situations, ISTPs either attempt to flee or turn to fight their adversary face-to-face.

     The ISTP's form of retaliation can be characterised as defiling what other people value. The ISTP violates rules and regulations that project individual rights in retaliation for the lost opportunities and freedom that the ISTP believes they have to endure. Getting even stimulates them and a renewed sense of excitement emerges from the risks of revenge and the expression of outrage. If stress continues, ISTPs will put what remaining freedom they have left in jeopardy by rebelling further.

10. ISFP
     ISFPs can be over-accepting of others and need to be more sceptical at times. Their need to please everyone makes them reluctant to critique anyone but themselves. This excessive desire to trust others makes them targets for hurt feelings and disadvantaged relationships. Long-range planning and adherence to policies can be their downfall. When the freedom to act on their instincts is limited, ISFPs become bored, restless and passively defiant. They are skilled at seeming to comply with regulations while annoying those who cause them distress.

     If stress continues to build, ISFPs will penalise others through self-degrading behaviour. This behaviour has the tendency to divert accountability away from themselves and onto others who they blame for their plight. This restores the excitement back into ISFP's lives while at the same time getting even with their accused oppressors. Rationalising their responsibilities, stressed-out ISFPs attempt to find their way out of stimulating circumstances through seeking inappropriate thrills. 

11. ISTJ
     When their skills at maintaining the structures that they believe hold up society fall short of achieving the security they are striving toward, ISTJs become tired and weary. If the stress becomes overwhelming, ISTJs become immobilised and cannot fill the responsibilities that they consider necessary for rightful membership within their community. They become incapacitated by concerns of a bankruptcy. ISTJs may then further increase their attention on the details of the situation that is causing them stress. This sometimes results in accusations by those around them that the ISTJ is becoming over-demanding, irritable, inflexible and impatient with others.

     Fearing the breakdown of a trustworthy system and dreading becoming an outcast, the ISTJ may feel like energy is being drained from their bodies. Fatigue will set in and it will be exacerbated by a loss of sleep and of appetite. Depleted of their resources, ISTJs will be unable to meet many of their obligations or fulfill their duties to their work and to others. Not being able to fulfill this basic need, the ISTJ becomes further stressed and almost incapacitated by listlessness -- making it all the more difficult to be responsive to others.

12. ISFJ
     ISFJs respect established authority and they tend to accept others' opinions and desires as their own. In work situations, they provide a stable and standardised service. Disorderly situations and constantly changing rules can cause them undue stress. At these times, ISFJs need to be more assertive and direct because, owing to their kind-heartedness and sensitivity, ISFJs can be taken for granted and even taken advantage of. This can cause them to feel resentment and anger -- feelings that the ISFJ has a tendency to deny. If the situation worsens and uncomfortable feelings build up, the ISFJ will begin to feel insecure about their status. Worrying that they are not secure or protected enough, they may become overprotective and excessively nervous about foreboding events. This can cause others to feel resistant or defiant which then contributes to the disorder of the situation.

     If stress continues, the ISFJ will experience increasing anxiety. They fear that things will continue to spin out of control will result in a general feeling of dread and apprehensiveness. They become both wary of change and unrelentingly pessimistic about the future. ISFJs will eventually become immobilised by physical symptoms associated with their anxieties. Providing care for others will become secondary as their own bodily symptoms -- resulting from their fears of abandonment -- disable to such a degree that they cannot assume their responsibilities. Yet, abandoning service-oriented obligations prevents ISFJs from accessing opportunities that allow them to fulfill their basic needs.

13. INTP
     INTPs lack follow-through and this can isolate their ideas from practical examination. Their notions become over-intellectualised and too abstract to be of practical benefit. With their sharp critical thinking and and analytical abilities, INTPs tend to nit-pick, hair-split and generally overdo simple issues. Their desire for accuracy and precision exacerbates any error they may perceive in themselves or others -- they are, in other words, highly self-critical. Wanting to be competent and know everything, their standards grow increasingly higher. When fear of failing becomes overly pronounced, INTPs are quick to feel unintelligent, slow and powerless.

     If stress continues, the INTP's mind seems to freeze and block out vital information it has worked so hard to accumulate. Their creative juices stop flowing and they suffer from stage fright, writers block and a general inhibition of their ingenious thinking and fluent language skills. Preoccupied with performance failure, INTPs become self-consciously distracted in anticipation of their failure. If the stress becomes too overwhelming, the fear of blanking out prevents them from taking risks in areas they desire to succeed in. Attempting to avoid incompetence, they fail to gain the expertise and mastery they so desperately need.

14. INTJ
     INTJs' precision thinking and need for accuracy causes them to be inflexible at times. Having thought out a strategy, the INTJ may stubbornly disregard those who they think have not spent as much time reflecting on an idea as they have. This, along with their drive to produce something significant, can make them demanding and difficult. If their plans and solutions fall short of their high standards, INTJ's feel pressured -- as if everything is on the line. "Everything," for an INTJ, is the competence and ability to produce something significant. Fear of not living up to this expectation will increase their stress and possibly dissuade them from risking or trying out their ideas. They may then find themselves thinking about ideas that do not have a meaningful or productive end.

     When stress increases, the INTJ can become argumentative and disagreeable. Social interaction, which is not their strength, becomes increasingly difficult for them. Not trusting their own abilities, they become preoccupied with obsessive notions. The INTJ may then find themselves spending inordinate amount of time fighting horrible thoughts, tempting absurdities and feelings of worthlessness. Fearful of others recognising their perceived failure, the INTJ incessantly ruminates about mistakes, inadequacies, weaknesses, ineptness and incompetence. Because this distracts them from risking what little confidence they may have left in themselves, it therefore keeps them from obtaining the success and achievement they so desperately need.

15. INFP
     INFPs feel internal turmoil when they find themselves in situations in which there is conflict between their inner code of ethics and their relationships with others. They feel caught between pleasing others and maintaining their own integrity. Their natural tendency to identify with others, compounded with their self-sacrificial dispositions, tend to leave them confused as to who they really are. Their quiet personalities further feeds their feelings of depersonalisation. The INFP's quest for self-identity then seems even more alluring -- but increasingly impossible to attain.

     As with all NFs, the INFP will feel lost and perplexed at stressful times. As stress builds, INFPs become disconnected from their own personality and perceived place in life. They will lose sight of who they are in relation to time and place. They may not make basic observations, while instead they will focus on the more abstract and symbolic meanings of a particular interaction. This can sometimes baffle those who expect more direct communication and a fairly concrete relationship.

16. INFJ
     The agreeable nature and quiet personality of the INFJs make them particularly vulnerable to hurt feelings. Distress within close relationships can shatter the INFJ. Like all NFs under stress, INFJs feel fragmented and lost -- as if they are acting out a part rather than simply being themselves. This disassociation can be related to physical symptoms for the INFJ, whether real or imagined. Feeling split off from their physical natures, INFJs may become virtually immobilised by repressed feelings.

     Although INFJs may feel like remaining still and stationary until the chaos and confusion of a stressful situation dissipates, it would be best for them to actively sort out their needs from others. Being excessively cooperative and agreeable, the INFJ has a tendency to adopt values and beliefs of others as their own. When external conflict grow, so does the INFJ's sense of personal disharmony. Disassociating themselves from others takes a great deal of effort for the INFJ.

3. MBTI Stereotypes in One Word
INFP: Crying
......Yeah, I knew it wasn't a lie but still.

INFJ: Overthinking
Shut up. It's called an Ni-Ti loop. I can't help it.

ENFP: Hyper
Ermmm...no?

ENFJ: Meddling
Pfffft....HAHAHAHAHA. I guess you people can't help it either.

INTP: Science
Yeah well, I supposed so?

INTJ: Mastermind 
Generally evil people? Yeah, probably.

ENTP: Arguing
That's not really true, you know.

ENTJ: Superior
Self-perception. Not actually superior, just superiority complex.

ISFP: Hippie
That's not a bad thing, okay? Respect ISFP's choices.

ESFP: Excited
About what? What's so exciting?

ISTP: Adventure
Just...just don't get yourself in trouble.

ESTP: Sex
WHAT? Ermmm...okay. Stay far far FAR away from these people then.

ISTJ: Rules
BORINGGGGG

ESTJ: Aggressive
Inner peace, my friend. Calm your mind.

ISFJ: Tradition
Ask yourself, is it necessary for the happiness of those around you?

ESFJ: Social
Yeah, like all the other Extroverts?

4. MBTI Comforting Someone
INFJ: It's not your fault, you don't deserve to feel this way.
INFP: You've got so much potential, just keep your head up!
ENFP: Everything's going to be alright man!
ENFJ: What's wrong? Tell me EVERYTHING. I'm here for you.
INTJ: Are those... Tear? Jesus Christ.
INTP: Okay... Okay... How can we fix this?
ENTP: Come on, there's got to be something that'll cheer you up.
ENTJ: You don't have to be sad, we'll get ice cream or something.
ISFP: Don't worry about it, don't worry about anything.
ESFP: I heard there's a really good karaoke bar in town...
ISTP: What happened this time?
ESTP: Alright...So you're said. Why is that?
ISTJ: What the fuck are feelings?
ESTJ: What the fucking shit fuck are feelings and why do you feel them?
ISFJ: I'm really sorry. Is there anything I can do to make it better?
ESFJ: I'm here to help you feel better. Let's get started.

5. Comprehensive Guide to Marrying Idealists (NFs) [Frigging Hilarious]
INFP
Why: INFPs are the YA romance novel protagonists of the world. They will stand by you until deaht and fall deeply - often too deeply - in love. The nice thing about INFPs is that if you aren't really that awesome, they will invent a more awesome version of you and convince themselves that you are that person. They will genuinely care for you and if you break their heart, it will most definitely make you a terrible person.
That sounds horrible. You are exploiting the poor INFP's desperation to see you as a good person. Why would you do that, you piece of shit? Also, aren't INFPs a little too touchy though, like I have to be extra 150% tactful with these people because they may break from a little poke...

How: Get tips from romance novels - the cute ones, not the gross ones - and that's about it. You may want to consider things like champagne picnics, watching the stars or even cuddling while watching the Notebook. Just remember to give them their Introvert space and do your best to live up to their expectations.
Watching the stars sounds nice, not everything else though. Cuddling comes somewhere very far in the relationship and before that, don't fucking touch me or I'll tear your arm off. You may hug...when I look like I need it, but don't fucking touch me. Also, romance novels are all stupidly the same.

ENFP
Why: Picture a nice, fluffy, adorable Golden Retriever running up to you and greeting you as you walk in the door after a long day of whatever. Don't you wish people could be more like that? Always happy to see you. Unconditionally loving and always ready with a warm hug? Wouldn't it be nice if you could marry someone like that? If you've asked yourself these questions, you should probably marry an ENFP. They care a lot about people but sometimes they just get really distra - SQUIRREL!
How about I just get myself a Golden Retriever. Better looking, more loyal, less of a burden. Sounds like a better alternative than a human who acts like a dog.

How: ENFPs have a funny thing with adorable awkward people who seem like they don't know what they're doing when it comes to love. Maybe this has something to do with their supposed perfect match being INTJs. Like the other (especially the extroverted) NFs, they REALLY NEED TO MAKE OTHER PEOPLE HAPPY ok? So I guess you could pretend to be an emotionally stunted INTJ? I don't know, that sounds manipulative and it seems so wrong to advice manipulating Intuitive Feelers. On the other hand, if you are an emotionally stunted introverted Thinker, just be yourself!
I'm glad you have a guilty conscience. Yes, that would be very manipulative and not very nice of you. Also, being emotionally stunted does not seem like a very attractive facade at all, so I'll take a pass.

ENFJ
Why: Ah yes, Tumblr's own Social Justice Warriors. Like a lot of extroverted judgers, they feel a strong need to impact the world and since they're NFs, they want to make the world a better place for everyone. If you also feel very strongly about things like making sure every orphan is adopted by loving parents or passing laws against eating horses, you may find a life partner in an ENFJ.
Oh wow, sjws, the whole bunch of them? Also, please include advocating animal rights, saving abandoned animals and alleviating poverty on that list please. And while you are at it, how about reducing price of medicine, increasing aid for disease-prone areas, etc etc. You get my point. 

How: Never EVER be a bad person. Just have good morals. If you're not sure how to have good morals think: Am I harming anyone? If the answer is no, you're probably not thinking it through enough. Pretty much everything you do harms someone or something in some way or another. Isn't that weird? Anyway, to seduce an ENFJ, you might consider doing something unconventional for a cause. This will help them notice you. Besides that, yea, don't be an ass.
Please don't encourage someone to start a stupid CIP project that creates more harm than good...Sighhh...people these days, doing things without being informed. But hey, good job, person-who-made-this, you have exposed the basic INFJ thought loops. If you don't think you are harming anyone, then you are just a little too short-sighted. Even being alive is harming people, you know that?

INFJ
Why: They have mystical powers. Did you know the tears of an INFJ can cure zombieism? They are actually the descendants of angels who fell from heaven and bred with the local unicorn population. Not really. INFJs are confusing because they're confident that they are the best friend anyone could ever have (which in some ways they are) but simultaneously suffer from crippling self-doubt. If you like puzzling people and walking contradictions, you may want to spend a lifetime with an INFJ, just trying to understand how their brain works.
This went from "What the hell" to "HEY, THAT'S MEAN!" real fast. Isn't breeding with unicorns bestiality? Also falling from heaven? I landed on my face and head I suppose. Also, I haven't ever thought of myself as the best friend anyone has. In fact, I'm surprised people want me as a friend and it's always an honour for me that anyone talks to me. Yeah, crippling self-doubt. That part isn't wrong. Also, ...that's sad. Get along with me just to figure me out? .......Pardon me for a moment.

How: You'll have to find one first. Haha, LOL, good luck.
Hello...? I'm right here? But yeah, I haven't met other INFJs before.

6. The Types as Other Types
ISTJ: Rule-oriented INTJ who's never been tempted to be a rebel.

ESTJ: The overgrown anger reflexes of an ISTJ.

ISTP: What you get when you take out the batteries in an ESFP.

ESTP: The inner pep talk voice of an ESFP.

INTJ: Rapunzel complex of an INFJ where they'll never want to admit how much they care

ENTJ: The moment when an ESTJ spins in their office chair to face you.

ENTP: The moment when an ENTJ says it's cool and they're not mad but it's just denial.

INTP: The Dr. Jekyll version of an ENTP Mr. Hyde.

ISFP: A caring version of ISTPs.

ISFJ: The momentary pause an ESFJ takes when talking.
Pffft....hahaha, I need to tell her this one.

ESFP: The camouflage of a hidden nerdy INTP.

ESFJ: The huge grin an ESTP has when everyone pays attention to them. 

INFP: The hormonal teenager side of themselves ISFPs would rather hide.

INFJ: Insecure master manipulator version of an ENFJ
HEY! I'm offended! We are not the weaker + evil version of ENFJs! It's the other way round.

ENFP: A homicidal narcissist wearing a cut face mask of an INFP so everyone thinks they're innocent.

ENFJ: The effects of 100 years of ageing on an ENFP.
Old people. Are they still homicidal narcissists?

7. MBTI Choice of Careers
ISTJ: Accountant, detective, computer programmer, military leader
They are all such dull jobs...besides detective. Detectives are cool.

ISFJ: Nurse, interior designer, shop keeper, home economics
Cool. Can I hire you guys to design my house all Victorian like and then cook some Italian dishes? Thanks.

INFJ: Counsellor, writer, teacher, religious work
Religious work. RELIGIOUS WORK. What religious work? You insensitive shithead, am I supposed to be preaching free-thinkerism because I don't think I CAN do religious work. My birth dictated that I can't do that. Yay, I have only 3 choices...and I don't want to be a writer (though my fanfictions all do very well, thank you).

INTJ: Scientist, administrator, system analyst, professor
Yes, yes. The science variant of people...so what happens when an INTJ doesn't take science?

ISTP: Engineer, mechanics, pilot, computer programmer
THAT'S WHAT MY MOM IS...was I mean. She's a manager now but...WOW.

ISFP: Artist, musician, veterinarian, child care worker
JEALOUS. I wanted to be a pianist and a vet at the same time...because you don't have to be a counsellor to counsel people.

INFP: Reporter, writer, counsellor, teacher
Hello, I don't see any difference except that INFP actually gets access to ALL FOUR regardless of family background. I'm still real salty about that. 

INTP: Scientist, professor, forensic researcher, researcher
I guess the difference is that INTPs are less organised and more curious than INTJs?

ESTP: Engineer, athlete, sales representative, paramedic
Meh.

ESFP: Actor, child care, sales, human resources
Well, if I weren't so short, I would have tried my hand at acting.

ENFP: Actor, writer, journalist, psychologist
This is cool too, the first and last one I mean. The middle two are just very meh to me.

ENTP: Lawyer, entrepreneur, scientist, consultant
Holy shit. Basically every option my dad has limited me to. That's cool.

ESTJ: Administrator, teacher, judge, financial officer
The only one here of any interest is teacher. I don't really like law because it often increases social gaps and judges often only deal with people who even have the ability to bring issues into court.

ESFJ: Nurse, home economics, administration, human resources
Yawn.

ENFJ: Diplomat, social worker, sale representative, teacher
Social worker is cool and I've considered it, but there's always the issue that I'd rather set up a whole company of social workers so I can do more and reach further. But there's financial problems. Sigh. 

ENTJ: Administration, manager, professor, judge
BORING.

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