I don't know who the hell decided that INFJs are rarely Type Ones because I just took the test 5 times over the past few days and I'm positive that I'm a Type One with a very strong inclination towards Type Two. For a while, I thought I was a Type Two with One-Wing, but upon further research and looking at common mistypings, it's much more likely that I'm a Type One with a Two-Wing (or Nine-Wing). I'm so confused.
In fact, I do think that INFJ Type Ones are very common, given that INFJs are the most revolutionist MBTI types. After all, Type Ones are known as "the Reformer" and on top of that, Type Ones with Two-Wing are called "the Advocate", which is actually one of the terms used to describe INFJs. So there, I'm not a Type Two with One-Wing, but a Type One with Two-Wing. It's scarily easy to mix up, especially for me, because whatever Type One and Type Two are concerned with both appeal to me.
Still, I think that I'm a person who would more outwardly display Type Two traits, with a very consistent underlying torrent of Type One ideals.
Type One Overview Video
"Type One is the part of us that cares tremendously about integrity; honesty, integrity; being aligned with truth, with higher values, with ethics. Ones have very high standards for themselves. They do their best to walk their talk. They care about integrity and they care about fairness and justice, and ethical conditions in the society - in the whole planet, really. There are different areas that Ones may focus on but whatever their focus, Ones want things to be done correctly with integrity - with love, really. They are people who care about things - care about issues, care about what's going on in the world. All this is quite wonderful. The challenge for Ones is that they can become quite rigid in their views, in their attitudes towards things and even in their attitudes towards themselves. That rigidity can actually become harshness towards themselves. Self-criticism - They can be very painful and cause one a lot of difficulties and become very hard on the people they care about."
It's not difficult to see how an INFJ can be confused between being a Type One and a Type Two. In a previous post I made about Type Twos, it is quite obvious that INFJs with a very developed Fe can very well be a Type Two. In fact, ENFJs are most commonly Type Twos, and according to our functions stacks, if an INFJ develops his/her Fe beyond his/her Ni, he/she will start to resemble ENFJs more in the way they deal with things in the outer world (Fe-Ni swap). Still, once again, an INFJ cannot become an ENFJ, because we don't swap our tertiary and inferior functions easily. So before I move on about Type Ones, I find the need to address a question in the MBTI community.
Can an INFJ become an ENFJ?
For one, you cannot change your MBTI. MBTI does not gauge your exact behaviour and is more of a description of your base personality. As you go through life, you may over-develop certain functions. For example, if you grow up in a family that places huge emphasis on studies and you come to believe in that as well, you can easily over-develop your T functions.
So can an INFJ resemble an ENFJ?
On the outside, yes, definitely. If INFJs are the most extroverted Introverts, I can see how INFJs may look like ENFJs on the first meeting. In fact, INFJs who grew up in families that have a lack of Intuitive types have the tendency to under-develop their Ni function, because their gut feelings are often rejected by the people around them. Instead, they can end up developing Fe beyond their level of Ni, and this kind of swap ends up resembling ENFJs.
However, it is extremely difficult for an individual to change their tertiary and inferior functions and that is where the difference between INFJs and ENFJs shine through. If I'm being completely honest, I think we INFJs are very envious of ENFJs, because the way their functions are stacked means that they don't experience emotional "constipation" as much and they act better under stress.
Every single type, under stress, turns towards their inferior function. In the INFJ's case, our tertiary function is Ti, which works with Ni and Fe nicely. However, under stress, we revert to using Se, a sensing function, not to mention, Extroverted Sensing. Extroverted Sensing is a very dangerous function when not balanced or checked because over-indulgence in Se can lead to over-drinking, over-eating, smoking, taking drugs, cutting, etc etc, anything to stimulate our senses. When an INFJ is stressed, they try to shut down their inner world by focusing too much their Se. Usually, once the INFJ got out of the moment of stress, a huge wave of guilt sets in once they realise that they had done all these unethical acts that were selfish and insensitive.
We think that ENFJs have it better. Their Se is tertiary while Ti is inferior. This means that ENFJs are one of the only types that handle stress well. Under stress, ENFJs sit down and think, retreating into their own minds to rationalise things. That's what INFJs do when not under stress and sadly, we tend to throw our Ti out the window once we are overwhelmed.
So, no, INFJs cannot become ENFJs. Under stress, every single person revert to their base personalities. If you place an INFJ and ENFJ under a situation of huge stress, you can immediately see the difference. INFJs will break down, either in hysteria or completely paralyse themselves, trying to either overload their sense or shut themselves down. ENFJs will just sit down and think through it. The good thing, I guess, for INFJs is that once the climax of the stress dies down, the Ti comes back almost immediately and the first thought is usually "Did I just do that? Well, that was stupid." And then Fe comes back later with the guilt.
In fact, in a survey conducted by MBTI researchers, when asked "If you have to choose another type to be, which type would you be?", the most common answers amongst INFJs are ENFJ and ENFP, because "they seem to have life easier".
Now, back to the Type One stuff.
Type One in Brief
Ones are conscientious and ethical, with a strong sense of right and wrong. They are teachers, crusaders, and advocates for change: always striving to improve things, but afraid of making a mistake. Well-organised, orderly, and fastidious, they try to maintain high standards, but can slip into being critical and perfectionistic [INFJ much?]. They typically have problems with resentment and impatience. At their Best: wise, discerning, realistic and noble [INFJs are the most realistic idealists, probably because we are cynical as hell. We are very weird people - very idealistic, thinking the entire world can be changed and made better, but at the same time, very realistic because of pessimism]. Can be morally heroic [Heroic? I don't see it as being heroic.]
Basic Fear: Of being corrupt/evil, defective Basic Desire: To be good, to have integrity, to be balanced Enneagram One with a Nine-Wing: "The Idealist" Enneagram One with a Two-Wing: "The Advocate" Key Motivations: Want to be right, to strive higher and improve everything, to be consistent with their ideals, to justify themselves, to be beyond criticism so as not to be condemned by anyone
Correspondence of Type and MBTI
Q: It seems that Enneagram Types 1 and 4 are the strongly correlated with the INFJ personality. How are these two "flavours" of the INFJ different?
A: The Type 1 INFJ would fall in line with the humanitarian portrait of the type, whereas the Type 4 INFJ would be more in tune with the rare and mysterious image.
The Meaning of Type One Arrows (in brief)
When moving in their Direction of Disintegration (stress), methodical Ones suddenly become moody and irrational at Four. However, when moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), angry, critical Ones become more spontaneous and joyful, like healthy Sevens.
I'll make another more informative post about how the entire Enneagram system works some other time. It's quite an extensive system that I'm not very sure about right now.
Type One Overview
We have named the Type One The Reformer because Ones have a "sense of mission" that leads them to want to improve the world in various ways, using whatever degree of influence they have. They strive to overcome adversity -- particularly moral adversity -- so that the human spirit can shine through and make a difference. They strive after "higher values", even at the cost of great personal sacrifice.
History is full of Ones who have left comfortable lives to do something extraordinary because they felt that something higher was calling them. During the Second World War, Raoul Wallenburg left a comfortable middle-class life to work for the protection of thousands of European Jews from invading Nazis. In India, Gandi left behind his wife and family and life as a successful lawyer to become an itinerant advocate of Indian independence and non-violent social changes. Joan of Arc left her village in France to restore the throne to the Dauphin and to expel the English from the country. The idealism of each of these Ones has inspired millions.
Hah, this is hilarious. I was just reading the description of an INFJ on Personality Institute yesterday and this is what they said "In that they (INFJs) are inherently sacrificial in relating, as leaders -- as with Joan of Arc, their prototype -- they are capable of inspiring deep levels of devotion from their followers, which is often puzzling to those outside the sphere of their influence." Also, "This type (INFJ) is "Joan of Arc" in modern-day dress, living to "war" on behalf of those likely to be outcasts of society, for those unable or unwilling to defend themselves against anything that militates the sanctity of the selfhood of mankind." Yeah, what was that about INFJs not being Type Ones again?
Ones are people of practical action -- they wish to be useful in the best sense of the word. On some level of consciousness, they feel that they "have a mission" to fulfill in life, if only to try their best to reduce the disorder they see in their environment.
Although Ones have a strong sense of purpose, they also typically feel that they have to justify their actions to themselves, and often to others as well. This orientation causes Ones to spend a lot of time thinking about the consequences of their actions, as well as how to keep from acting contrary to their convictions. Because of this, Ones often persuade themselves that they are "head" types, rationalists who proceed only on logic and objective truth. But, the real picture is somewhat different: Ones are actually activists who are searching for an acceptable rationale for what they feel they must do. They are people of instinct and passion who use convictions and judgements to control and direct themselves and their actions.
In the effort to stay true to their principles, Ones resist being affected by their instinctual drives, consciously not giving in to them or expressing them too freely. The result is a personality type that has problems with repression, resistance and aggression. They are usually seen by others as highly self-controlled, even rigid, although this is not how Ones experience themselves. It seems to them that they are sitting on a cauldron of passions and desires, and they had better "keep the lid on" lest they and everyone else around them regret it.
It's so INFJ, I don't even need to say more.
Ones believe in being strict with themselves (and eventually becoming "perfect") will justify them in their own eyes and in the eyes of others. But by attempting to create their own brand of perfection, they often create their own personal hell. In stead of agreeing with the statement in Genesis that God saw what He had created, "and it was good," Ones intensely feel that "It wasn't -- there obviously have been some mistakes here!" This orientation makes it difficult for them to trust their inner guidance -- in deed, to trust life -- so Ones come to rely heavily on their superego, a learned voice from their childhood, to guide them toward the "greater good" which they so passionately seek. When Ones have gotten completely entranced in their personality, there is little distinction between them and this severe, unforgiving voice. Separating from it and seeing its genuine strengths and limitations is what growth for Ones is about.
That's actually the main problem I have with creationists because they like to think what God created is perfect. Hello, are you blind? Have you been living under a rock? This world is not perfect, far from it. It can be, but it isn't. Stop your preaching over there and do something! It doesn't matter to me who or what created this world insofar as where this world will proceed towards. It is certainly interesting, the idea of Origin that is (that's a Type Four obsession), but it should not and cannot determine the future of mankind!
Levels of Health
Healthy Levels
Level One: (At their best) Become extraordinarily wise and discerning. By accepting what is, they become transcendentally realistic, knowing the best action to take in each moment. Humane, inspiring and hopeful: the truth will be heard.
Level Two: Conscientious with strong personal convictions: they have an intense sense of right and wrong, personal religious and moral values. Wish to be rational, reasonable, self-disciplined, mature, moderate in all things.
Level Three: Extremely principled, always want to be fair, objective, and ethical: truth and justice primary values. Sense of responsibility, personal integrity, and of having a higher purpose often make them teachers and witnesses to the truth.
Average Levels
Level Four: Dissatisfied with reality, they become high-minded idealists, feeling that it is up to them to improve everything, crusaders, advocates, critics. Into "causes" and explaining to other how things "ought" to be.
Level Five: Afraid of making a mistake: everything must be consistent with their ideals. Become orderly and well-organised, but impersonal, puritanical, emotionally constricted, rigidly keeping their feelings and impulses in check. Often workaholics -- "anal-compulsive", punctual, pedantic and fastidious.
Level Six:Highly critical both of self and others: picky, judgemental, perfectionistic. Very opinionated about everything: correcting people and badgering them to "do the right thing" -- as they see it. Impatient, never satisfied with anything unless it is done according to their prescriptions. Moralising, scolding, abrasive and indignantly angry.
Unhealthy Levels
Level Seven: Can be highly dogmatic, self-righteous, intolerant, and inflexible. Begin dealing in absolutes: they alone know "The Truth". Everyone else is wrong: very severe in judgements, while rationalising own actions.
Level Eight: Become obsessive about imperfection and the wrong-doing of others, although they may fall into contradictory actions, hypocritically doing the opposite of what they preach.
Level Nine: Become condemnatory toward others, punitive and cruel to rid themselves of "wrong-doers". Severe depressions, nervous breakdowns, and suicide attempts are likely Generally corresponds to the Obsessive-Compulsive and Depressive personality disorders.
I actually think I'm always above Level Five, despite the stupid things I do. The kind of self-harm I inflict is generally a result of Disintegration (stress) since Type One disintegrate into Type Four. Why? Because I think the difference is that at Unhealthy Levels, Type Ones blame the world for everything - that the entire world is wrong. In Disintegration, we blame ourselves for incompetence, which is a Type Four characteristic. So I'd think I'm at Level Four, trying to go to Three.
Type One with Nine-Wing (1/9)
My 3 highest scoring Types are 1, 2, and 9 respectively. Highly confusing, I know.
Balanced and Transcendent States
Healthy 1/9 overcomes emotional repression, discovering an inner warmth. Although they still have a tendency to judge, they do not take their judgements quite so seriously, allowing for the possibility that they may be wrong. The Nineish tendency to withdraw from stress comes under conscious control, allowing them to take a more active role in life, although there is still a gentle, quiet feeling. The compulsive workaholic turns into a responsible but fun-loving person who allows time for just letting go and relaxing.
In extreme integration, the joy of Seven comes in strongly, adding a sense of enthusiastic involvement in life. This combines with Threeish charisma and accomplishment to build a powerful sense of self-creation and self-esteem. 1/9 saints are gentle but persistent teachers. The selfless union of Nine combines with the deep wisdom of One, opening a special kind of access to reality. Spiritually advanced 1/9s seem to be effortlessly in touch with the unfolding Work of the world.
Unbalanced and Unhealthy States
Unhealthy 1/9s often overcontrol their emotions, resulting in a kind of physical rigidity accompanied by an undercurrent of vaguely explosive energy. The repressed emotions, particularly anger, build up unnoticed and leak out in the form of tics and nervous gestures. One disintegrates into Four, resulting in hostility, introspective withdrawal and deep self-hatred, while Nine disintegrates to Six, bringing in suspicion, blaming and passive-aggressive behaviour. But the fearful blaming and suspicion are kept inside, where they become bottled up ever more tightly.
STOP STOP STOP. That sounds a lot like me, A LOT. But...but my 2 is higher than my 9..by like 1%, but still! Wait a flying second. This description is EXACTLY how I behave under stress: bottling up, extreme suspicion, withdrawal, self-hatred...I'm so confused.
As the repressed emotionality becomes more and more tightly bound, behaviours begin to resemble robotic, automatic rituals. All of life becomes a lockstep repetition of extremely stylised routines. In deep imbalance, 1/9s can become extremely anxious about getting everything precisely right. Every tiny move is subject to intense, painful scrutiny, and past behaviours are examined in agonising detail. Eventually, psychotic 19 might become completely paralysed into inaction, stabbed through the heart by the endless need to repeat behaviours until they feel precisely correct.
I'm so confused~ SO VERY CONFUSED~ ...Let's just look at 1/2, maybe there are overlaps.
Type One with Two-Wing (1/2)
Balanced and Transcendent States
Healthy 1/2s begin to loosen up somewhat, becoming able to let go of their righteous judgements. They begin to allow for the possibility that their views might not be entirely accurate. Their other-directed corrections soften up and actually become helpful rather than intrusive. They become able to see the difference between proud perfectionism and healthy tolerance of differences.
When 1/2s attain spiritual opening, they can become teachers of the highest order. One integrates to Seven, bringing in joy and enthusiasm, while Two integrates to Four, replacing selfish manipulation with genuine compassionate concern for others. Deep Oneish wisdom combines with Twoish loving generosity for an intensely personal kind of guidance, even when they are addressing large groups. Somehow advanced 1/2s seem to know exactly what is needed for maximum teaching value in any situation. They teach by asking the right questions, gently guiding the student to deeper insights.
Unbalanced and Unhealthy States
Unhealthy 1/2s run into problems with Twoish pride interacts with Oneish perfectionism. A tremendous inner conflict rages between the Two-Wing that says "I am a good, generous person" and the Oneish view that sees every tiny error as a sign of fundamental worthlessness. One disintegrates to Four, where self-critical introspection creates a spiral of hopelessness, while Two disintegrates to Eight, so when the heavily repressed anger erupts, it does so in sudden fits of hypercritical rage, sometimes accompanied by overt violence. Naturally, these violent fits then become more food for the self-judgement spiral, as the 1/2 falls into guilty remorse.
This sounds correct too. I supposed since all Types have two wings and it's just the general inclination, I may be a Type One with equal inclination towards Two and Nine.
In the worst cases, repressed Oneish anger and hostile Twoish pride combine, creating intense sessions of wrenching, hand-wringing despair. In my anger is not expressed towards others, then it is directed at myself. I am not good enough if I cannot meet my own standards. I must work harder and harder or I will fail my own increasingly difficult self-tests. Self-punishment is necessary, in the form of gruelling work days, endlessly tormented repetitions of not-quite perfect tasks, and every kind of refusal to experience any sort of pleasure. Suicide is possible.
Yup, I'm almost 100% positive that I'm a Type One with very equal Two and Nine Wings. I'll explain Wings in my general Enneagram post when I have the time to do one. Just keep in mind that everyone has two wings, but most show inclinations towards one over the other. For example, One is adjacent to Two and Nine, so people of Type One will lean towards either Two or Nine. I think I', leaning towards both sides almost equally and that's why I seem to be able tor relate to both equally.
This is incredible. How is it possible that listening to music can get me all teary and emotional? Hey, but it's Lord of the Rings. That trilogy has the most amazing soundtrack I've ever heard anywhere and it's so full of nostalgia I just want to go rewatch the 10 hours worth of movies again.
Lord of the Rings Medley Violin
1. My Top 5 Favourite Lord of the Rings Soundtrack
So I thought, why not do one of these Top 5s? I may have been a Harry Potter fan for much longer than I have been a Lord of the Rings fan, but I must say, the latter has substantially better music. That's subjective, I know, but I like this style of music. Sue me.
a) Concerning Hobbits - The Shire
I think everyone who has watched Lord of the Rings knows this song. It's the most nostalgic song in the entire series and it just fills me with so much peace and wonder at the same time. It's sort of like combining the light-hearted and tranquil nature of the Shire with the sense of impending adventure. Damn it, I'm going to cry for no reason. It's just so...beautiful. Screw all you people who say INFJs have underdeveloped Se (although I think this is more Fe than Se right now...given that I'm tearing up).
b) May It Be - Enya
This is, to me, the song of the Elven races, although I think it fits the Lothlorien elves more than the Rivendell or Mirkwood elves. Bitches please, go pick yourself up a Silmarillion first before trying to do any Lord of the Rings racial talk with me. It bothers me a lot when people cannot tell the different Elven types - e.g. Silvan, Noldor, Lindon, etc etc. Also, please do not tell me that Legolas is Silvan. The Mirkwood elves are primarily Silvan, yes, but both Legolas and Thranduil are Sindarin elves.
It's quite obvious how much I like Elves in Lord of the Rings...I have a frigging English-Elven dictionary even. "Mornie utulie" = Darkness has come. "Mornie alantie" = Darkness has fallen.
c) The Council of Elrond - Enya
The first time you lay your eyes properly on Legolas? *Massive nosebleeds* *Dies of excessive blood loss*
Pretty boy with the nicest shade of blonde hair tied in nice plaits and has stunning blue eyes? Is he girly? Yes. Do I care? No. I know my mom really liked Aragorn because he's all heroic and manly and stuff, and she tried to make me like Aragorn too. But nope, I was all hyped over Legolas instead, even as a 6 year old watching Lord of the Rings for the first time. I come back 8 years later to rewatch the series and once again...he's gorgeous. He's like the Draco Malfoy of Lord of the Rings, equally arrogant but much better looking actually. Would be a Slytherin in Hogwarts, because you know, the best House ever? Just kidding, I like Ravenclaw more.
d) Return of the King - Aragorn's Song
It's not just the song, sang in Elvish, but the entire scene as well. The resolution of the amazing trilogy, the Elvish song sang in welcome of the Elvish party and Arwen. I think this scene speaks for the song well enough, I don't have to say anything more.
e) Into the West - Ending
If anyone doesn't know the lore of Lord of the Rings, basically all Elves will depart across the Sea to the West, where they live out the rest of their immortality. I don't know why but the Elven races seem much more aligned with the kind of ideals I possess, probably why I like them. As taken from the Lord of the Rings Wiki, as adapted from the Silmarillion:
"The Elves came into existence before Men, and when Elves die, they pass to the Halls of Mandos in Valinor. After a long period of waiting, the Elf (unless unwilling to return to life or judged a perpetrator of unforgivable crimes) will be reincarnated.
For Elves, sex and marriage are one and the same, and it is that bodily union that achieves marriage. Elves lose interest in sex after they've had children. They do not consider the day a child was born as the moment they came into existence. Instead, they celebrate the day the child's parents begat them. Elves come of age at around fifty years old and generally marry around this age. Elves can tell in the eyes and voice of another Elf whether they are married and it is against an Elf's nature to take another by force; one so forced would reject bodily life and die. Because of the union of souls that occurs when Elves marry, and because of the eternal nature of Elven souls, they do not divorce or have multiple marriages. Elves have a taboo against incest, but marriage among second cousins is seen as acceptable."
So clearly, the Elves have it right.
Also, I cannot resist smacking this clip here:
2. The Intuitive Bias
If you are...
ENTJ: You are an amazing lightning-calculator of optimal allocations of capital and labour resources in grand global corporate or military undertakings. Your only weakness is that you are just so amazing and competent at everything that you often lose track of your feelings.
ESTJ: You can be middle-management of an assembly line or a construction foreman or something.
Yeah well, I don't like people who order others around in general, so I don't like both of these types. Still, ENTJs are supposedly more competent and since I'm an intuitive myself, I do have deeper connection with intuitive types.
INTJ: You are a strategic mastermind, quietly manipulating the course of external events from the shadows, smirking as your enemies trap themselves in your cleverly-laid invisible snares. Your mind is a labyrinthine complex of contingency plans and flexible strategies that allow you to overcome any challenges or obstacles.
ISTJ: You like to follow rules and you can organise calenders of whatever.
The thing is, even if intuitives have deeper understanding of fellow intuitives, it doesn't mean I always prefer N to S, especially since being an INFJ means I don't like how N types can see through me with less effort. Especially NT types since they're usually up to no good.
ENFJ: You are a giver, a wonderful friend, a diplomat using his intuitive understanding of interpersonal relations to manipulate the feelings and crowds for the greater good.
ESFJ: You're good at organising office birthday parties and book clubs.
Well, I think as an FJ, I'm supposed to treat both of these types favourably, although INFJs are not supposed to get along well with ESFJs. I don't know, these two types feel pretty similar to me, although the ESFJ is usually more oblivious to certain things that are obvious to ENFJs. ESFJs are supposedly more responsible though.
INFJ: You have the righteous introspection of Jesus, the charisma and principles of Gandhi, and you are amazing at internalising the pain of others and empathising with their true struggles. The only dark side is that you might be so good at this that you become Hitler because you're so devilishly smart and amazing.
ISFJ: You can bake cookies and take care of gardens.
Hey, that's quite mean! ISFJs are much better than that, so don't go around dissing their potential. Also I take offence to the second part of the INFJ one. Although INFJs like to huddle in the MBTI corner of Tumblr, I personally don't think that this person is an INFJ...probably an INTJ. I get the INTJ or INTP vibe.
ENTP: You are a clever, quick-witted inventor, endlessly creative with loopholes in systems of logic and always fast with a joking retort during a debate. You're a whiz-bang lawyer or a famous entrepreneur, following your amazing vision.
ESTP: You can do extreme sports and be a club promoter.
There's nothing wrong with pursuing sports or recreation as a career. Yeah, I'm sure this poster is an INTJ or INTP, probably the former.
INTP: You can be an Einstein, a Darwin, a Dawkins, an amazing thinker, producing a formidable corpus of thought and theory that will influence science and philosophy for generations to come.
ISTP: You can fix cars.
Just because ISTP are more hands-on and practical doesn't mean they aren't smart. Seriously, if the whole world was just N types, I don't think anything will actually get done...except maybe ENTJ and ENFJ. Everyone else will just be living in their own worlds with no cares given to "responsibilities".
INFP: Your richly developed inner values can blossom forth in an explosion of extraverted intuition to create new worlds and universes of indescribable beauty and reveal an understanding of the workings of human feelings and ethics that is unrivalled. You are a beautiful soul that few can understand.
ISFP: You're really sensitive and you can paint pictures.
Well, I think INFPs will make amazing authors or playwrights. I mean my fanfictions and writings are decent, but they are way below the INFP's Ne abilities. My writings are often quite cliched, so I don't know what's so good about them. On the other hand, those really creative works are probably by INFPs. Also, ISFPs are artists, that's something worthy of respect. I feel like art is a lot about talent because my sister took art for 5 years and she still ain't drawing at my level when I was her age.
3. How Each Types Reacts to Authority
ENFP: "Oh my God, is someone in-charge?"
You and I, ENFP, we will become the best of friends. Overthrow this corrupt bullshit. I will give you all the freedom and space you want.
ENTJ: Started talking and somehow accidentally became the authority themselves.
If I were a snake, I would be hissing. If I were a wolf, I would be growling. If I were a cat, I would be bristling. Why? Because these types are the ones that fucked up this world.
ENFJ: ENTJ's assistant, in charge of making sure the ENTJ seems nice.
You'd better do your job properly. If you don't, then you are implicated, you are an accomplice, and you shall be brought down as well.
ENTP: Has a standing appointment with the authority figure so they can brief their boss on what's wrong with the company this week.
I guess we can be good friends too, ENTP. I will give you feedback and you will revolutionise this company inside-out. Down with this corrupt capitalist bullshit.
INFP: Sitting behind the ENFP and didn't look up until ENFP said something. Also did not realise that there was an authority in place.
Sigh...you guys. How can you not see the evil in front of you? We shall purify it together. Come here, INFJ, once we succeed, I'll make sure everyone gets taken care of properly!
INFJ: Fucking corrupt as shit power structure.
OH MY GOD. I'm right on point, aren't I? I swear I'm just commenting as I go along so I actually did not see this before the comments above. But yes, the current capitalist system is extremely corrupt and I'm not just going to sit around like the rest of these potatoes and bow to the system. Overthrow that bullshit.
INTP: Quietly observing every move of the authority figure, carefully noting all mistakes, not so they can do anything about it, but so they have something to complain about later.
Complaints? Please feedback them to me and join in my cause. Don't you want to pursue your own interests, INTP? ENTJ can't give you that, so let's overthrow him!
INTJ: Makes a mental map of every rule in place in order to find every possible loophole. Exploits them all at once, causing the structure of power to fall apart. Laughs about it later, probably.
You people make the best allies at these times. Since INTJ and INFJ are supposed to have telepathic links through their Ni, I don't think I need to tell you my plan...you already know it.
ISTJ: "Thank God somebody here has a system in place."
Oh, but is it a good system? Can we have a better, more idealistic system?
ISTP: "I don't like this rule. Here are 6 alternatives for your consideration."
How about you join my cause and I'll be more accepting than ENTJ? I know what you need - space for your individuality to flourish, materials for you to pursue your own interests, no emotional obstacles. By any luck, ENFJ has not yet understood these yet (their Ni is secondary after all), so come here and join us.
ESTJ: *Eyes begin shining* "I can manage the shit out of this."
These are difficult people...they would take the ENTJ's position if they had the ability and yet...they would actually make worse leaders. Probably appeal to their superiority complex and get them to overthrow the ENTJ before locking them up. I'm sorry, YOU CANNOT RUIN MY PERFECT WORLD. *INFJ World Domination mode activated*
ESTP: Fuck these fucking rules; who the fuck are you and from where does your authority derive?
Good for standing in the front lines of opposition, not so good later on.
ISFJ: Weirdly loyal to authority figure despite being somewhat afraid of them.
If you join my cause, I ensure you that you need not be afraid of me. I will attend to your needs, even the emotional ones, since ENTJ can't handle those.
ESFJ: Does everything their boss says without complaining until they ask them to fire someone, at which point they quiet to avoid doing it.
If you join my cause, I will never make you do anything that will make you feel bad. I, we INFJs, will bear the brunt of the negative emotions and INTJ will bear the burden of doing unpleasant duties. We will give you the security you need, the concern you want to feel and at the same time, allow you to care for others.
ISFP: "What is an authority figure, I have never met one of those."
You are my best friend. I will send you out on the front lines.
4. The Dark Side of INFJ
Descriptions of the INFJ personality type often emphasise our peaceful natures and point out that we have a hard time dealing with conflict. For example, one of the reasons a commenter on my INFJ Loki post argued my typing is inaccurate was because he couldn't imagine INFJs" carrying a constant fight with everyone around you for the majority of your existence". INFJs are also described as disconnected from the world and unlikely to feel involved in the reality of what's going on around us. Though both of these can be true, we're not completely harmless. Every personality type has a dark side, and INFJs can be very scary people.
INFJ Shadow
Types with dominant Se use it effectively, but shadow functions are underdeveloped and so INFJs are not comfortable when forced to use Sensing. On a small level, making a "sensing mistake" that involves facts or details can make us "annoyed or defensive". On a larger level, times of stress trigger what is called a "grip experience", where the inferior function takes over.
For INFJs (and INTJs, who share Se as a shadow function), stress causes an "obsessive focus on external data", an "overindulgence in sensual pleasure," and an "adversarial attitude towards the outer world." The first one can make us irritable and obsessive. The second often takes the form of overeating, shopping for things we don't need and generally becoming self-centred. The third is a defensive response to feeling like the entire world is spinning out of control.
"Their hypersensitivity to potentially dangerous surroundings can promote uneasiness about people as well. ...An INFJ said she "becomes suspicious. Usually I'm tolerant, curious, and compassionate, so 'out of character' for me means I'm unaccepting and frustrated with the world"...
The altered state of any inferior function is typically accompanied by a lessening of social controls and therefore more frequent expressions of anger. However, the character of that anger may be different from different types. For INTJs and INFJs, the "cause" of distress is often one or more "objects" in the environment. The anger directed at either things or people may therefore be more focused, intense, and extreme than with other inferior functions."
INFJ Anger
Stress isn't the only thing that can bring out an INFJ's angry side. Jenn Granneman, the INFJ blogger of "Introvert, Dear" wrote an excellent article that address this issue. Here's a quote:
"Don't underestimate my gentle nature. I'm not all warm fuzzies and smiles. If you cross one of my deeply held inner values, I become extremely outspoken and crusading. If I see someone else being hurt, I'll have a strong urge to be their protector and defend them. An angry INFJ can deliver a wrath and intensity you've probably never experienced before. Think Jesus in the temple with whips, turning over the money changers' tables."
One of the odd things that results from INFJs generally peaceful nature evaporating once a deeply held value is crossed is that some people might be clueless about how we really feel about them. An INFJ won't share their real self and inner thoughts with a casual acquaintance and will go along with most conversations and suggestions just to avoid conflict. That can continue until the other person says or does something that crosses a line the INFJ has drawn in their minds, e.g. an INFJ woman being friendly to a guy she doesn't really like up until the point where he actually asks her out. I imagine it's pretty puzzling for people who think they're getting along just fine when suddenly an INFJ blurts out "I don't agree. And by the way, here's everything else you've done over the entire course of our relationship that irritates me."
5. How INFJs Deal with Conflict: 10 Confessions (Don't Worry, Just a Few More Pure INFJ Stuff)
I could feel the hurt in my stomach, a burning ball of lead in my gut. I lay in bed, blankets wrapped tightly around me. I couldn't think, I couldn't speak and even though I wanted to, I couldn't cry. My eyes were open, but I was too inside myself to notice anything around me.
It was just a fight.
Conflict makes us peace-loving INFJs very uncomfortable, because we crave harmony in our relationships. But conflict is inevitable, so how does an INFJ deal with conflict?
1. I take conflict personally.
We always blame ourselves. Even if, deep deep inside, we know that we aren't the ones at fault, we will still blame ourselves. As long as we were implicated, as long as we had the power to influence, it was our fault that the conflict happened. Husband cheated? My fault for not catering to his needs and probably not being there enough. Friend heartbroken? My fault for not intervening. The phrase "there's nothing you could have done" does not apply to us. There is always something you can do, it's just whether you chose to or not. So, it is our fault.
2. I'm a gentle soul.
We don't like it when people raise their voices and we would prefer not to either. Even then, we are the most wrathful types (along with INTJs) when truly angered and guess what? We feel extremely bad about it afterwards.
3. If you yell at me or insult me, I will be wounded for a long time.
And that's why parents of INFJs find their children to be truly weird but still well-behaved. We ask the most otherworldly question as children - Why is the man begging, mother? Why isn't anyone helping him? What is life, mom? But we are very disciplined children. Why? Because we get hurt when we are scolded. We feel sad for days, weeks and months. Even when a teacher yells at a fellow student, we can feel their embarrassment, their hurt, so much that the teacher might as well have been yelling at us. Unlike ST types children, who can get over a scolding in minutes, INFJ children will probably remember every single scolding for life.
4. There's a side of me you'll hopefully never see.
The vengeful, aggressive, destructive side of an INFJ that is so hard to pry out because we feel ashamed to even have such a side to us. We are the Protectors, but we don't want to resort to violence, but as children, even if we INFJs could talk things out, sometimes others just don't listen. And then we feel bad, because we don't want to hurt others. As we age, this violent side of us gets increasingly more hidden, but that also means that it's even more startling when it explodes out and we feel even more guilty.
5. I tend to internalise conflicts.
It's not enough that you are hiding the conflict. we can feel it in the air, the atmosphere. The air feels a little too stuffy, the whole atmosphere becomes charged with tension. The S types look at us and wonder what's wrong and meanwhile, we feel like aliens because "Am I just imagining the tension?" No, we are not. We just feel tension much more intensely than other types. INTJ has Ni too, but their Te auxiliary function acts as cushioning against strong emotions. Meanwhile, Fe increases sensitivity to emotions outside ourselves and worsens the vibe obtained through Ni. ENFJ has Fe and Ni too, but in opposite order (Fe before Ni), so the grasp on the atmospheric tension comes slower and is less internalised. It is both a gift and a curse, because we can judge relationships so accurately (at least on the emotional spectrum), but at the same time, it adds a lot of pressure. INFJs are Introverts precisely because of that - being around people means we absorb too much of the atmosphere around them.
6. I'll still be thinking about what was said during the conflict even after its over.
We'll reply the words over and over again, feeling the same emotions again and again. Heartbreaks, anger, sadness, loneliness becomes more and more intense as they go through the Ni-Ti loop, with Fe bringing in more pressure from the outside. Ni and Ti, analysing and assigning meaning again and again and again. Our minds become so busy and that's why INFJs are the types most prone to insomnia. We can spend hours and hours rolling over one little thing in our heads. If it was a conflict, it wears us down gradually.
7. It takes a long time for me to calm down.
We can't just "snap out of it". We are Introverts, after all, and we process emotions internally and deeply. We aren't like our extroverted cousins, who are open and chatty and well-liked. We withdraw, we hide, we bury. We aren't ever calm, actually, because if we are, then something must be wrong with either our Ni or Fe, or the Ni-Ti loop is broken.
8. Sometimes I bottle up my feelings for too long.
We're afraid to say how we really feel. We are insecure, but it's not because we don't trust people. It's precisely the opposite. INFJs are the type to preach incessantly about the goodness of others and as children, we are very trusting. It is only when we grow up, when we realise that telling sad things to others make them sad too, that we come to the conclusion that if we tell you how we really feel, we might hurt you. That the last thing an INFJ would ever want to do - hurt. We will willingly take all the hurt in the world, as long as we think we can bear with it without it spilling out. We want to be the only people in the world to feel hurt because it gives us purpose to see others happy. This loops back to the first point when eventually we realise that there's a limit to how much we can bottle up. We get angry at ourselves and whatever conflict results from the spilling over is taken with a huge dose of guilt. We should have been more competent and held out for longer. But as our Ti will silently whisper, "It's not possible for you to hold that much inside."
9. Conflict is overstimulating for my sensitive, introverted system.
This is known as the "INFJ freeze" when we are hearing everything around us, but our minds are so paralysed that we don't know what to say back. There's too much hurt coming from outside, inside, everywhere. We fall absolutely silent, because something inside short-circuited. We hear you, alright, as you continue to talk, but our feedback channels are broken. We just trail after you, or sit there, in completely silence.
10. There is a thing called the "INFJ Door Slam", and unfortunately, it is very real.
This is when someone has hurt us so deeply that we no longer invest any of our energy in them. We have come to learn to hate, to resent; and honestly, it makes us feel horrible that we can no longer see the good in someone. However, there is a certain point that we mark out very clearly and to us, if you value us, then you should never step past that point or promptly back out once we have warned you. The problem is that once you get past that point, it is hard for us to let you back, because a very basic and fundamental trust that INFJs carry, for all human-beings, was broken.
6. MBTI Squads Walking in Public
Don't touch me! squad: INTJ, ENTP, ISTP
Wait, I'm not under "Don't touch me!"? I guess it's "public" so if they accidentally bumped into me, it would be extremely unreasonable for me to snap at them. I guess that's why my mom's type is there. She will glare at the person so hard until that person bows and apologises.
Why is everyone walking so slow? squad: ENTJ, ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP
Counter-question. What are you in a hurry for? This isn't the last train on the planet or for today! Just wait for 5 minutes. You don't need to run for it.
Spaces off and runs into someone squad: INFP, INFJ, ISFP
*Turns to look at something* *Proceeds to run over 50 million people* I-I'm so sorry! I'm sorry, I'm sorry! I didn't mean to! *Trips over own feet* GODDAMMIT. *Bumps into person walking right next to them* EEK, I'M SORRY!
Smiles at everyone and wishes people a good day squad: ESFJ, ENFP, ENFJ, ESFP, ISFJ
*Backs away and awkward smile, eyes darting* H-Hi? Good day to you too?
This would never happen to because they never leave their house squad: INTP
That is actually what my dad does. Even if he leaves the house, he refuses to be around people. I get it that he doesn't like people or company, but still, it's bizarre. People are so fascinating and interesting, the whole point of life is to know and improve people.
7. And That's Why I'm a Bloody Failure
8. Enneagram for Type Twos (Correction: I am actually 1/2 not 2/1 [added after I finished this portion])
Correspondence with MBTI: ESF (ESFP, ESFJ), ISF (ISFP, ISFJ). While ENFJs and INFJs may also show many Two characteristics, their preference for Intuition makes them more likely to score higher in other Enneagram zones.
Yeah well, I'm an Enneagram Two with a One-Wing
Type Two in Brief
Twos are empathetic, sincere and warm-hearted. They are friendly, generous and self-sacrificing but can also be sentimental, flattering and people-pleasing. They are well-meaning and driven to be close to others, but can slip into doing things for others in order to be needed. They typically have problems with possessiveness and with acknowledging their own needs. At their Best: unselfish and altruistic, they have unconditional love for others.
Wait, shouldn't possessiveness be a trait for Fours and not Twos...given that INFPs are common Fours. Please, this is so ENFJ and INFJ, but since it has no mention of intuition, xSFxs fit as well.
Basic Fear: Of being unwanted, unworthy of being loved
Basic Desire: To feel loved
Enneagram Two with a One-Wing: The Servant
Enneagram Two with a Three-Wing: The Host/Hostess
I am under the impression that ExFxs are more Three-Winged while IxFJs and ISFPs are more One-Winged. I'm not that educated on the Enneagram though, but I know I am a One-Wing. "Servant" sounds perfectly fine to me.
Key Motivations
Want to be loved, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.
Now I'm confused. Am I a One with Two-Wing or a Two with One-Wing. One with Two-Wing is called the Advocate, which is one of the MBTI names for INFJ. However, apparently xSFJs are more likely to be One and INFJs are very rarely Ones because Twos and Fours are more common. I can't be a Four because my Two is too dominant and Four doesn't come with a Two Wing.
The Meaning of the Arrows (in brief)
When moving in their Direction of Disintegration (stress), needy Twos suddenly become aggressive and dominating at Eight. However, when moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), prideful, self-deceptive Tows become more self-nurturing and emotionally aware, like healthy Fours.
I'm definitely a Two then. I was extremely prideful during Primary School but gave way to the more emotionally aware and sensitive self hidden behind the arrogance and aggressive as I progressed through my early teenage years. It's exactly how a Two moves towards Four in growth.
Video: Russ Hudson Explains Type Two (I'll type the stuff out for people who can't watch)
Two is the part of us that is aware of heart connection, is aware of relatedness, of how none of us is alone and we're here to take care of each other, to address each other's needs, to be sensitive to the needs of others. So Two is the part of us where our heart goes out to others, so for people who are Twos, that's a primary value. Twos are the kind of people who are thinking about other people. They are people who are focused on the needs of others. They are people for whom love and kindness are of huge value. When Twos are in their power, they are just amazing at being sensitive to people and what's needed and what will help the relational world work. Their challenge though is that they can get so focused on that, that they forget to take care of their own needs and the more they do that, the more that tends to disrupt their relationships - it makes it difficult to stick to what they need and it causes them to do things for people that they don't necessarily want or require. Of course, that can make things quite painful for the Twos and very difficult for the people that they care about.
That sounds exactly like xxFJs. You can't even deny it. These are the things people say about INFJs, ENFJs, ISFJs, ESFJs, all the time. I don't know why ISFJs and ESFJs are more common in this type when it seems to me that the description is almost cut-and-paste from INFJ and ENFJ descriptions.
Type Two Overview
We have named personality type Two The Helper because people of this type are either the most genuinely helpful to other people or, when they are less healthy they are the most highly invested in seeing themselves as helpful. Being generous and going out of their way for others makes Two feel that theirs is the richest, most meaningful way to live. The love and concern they feel -- and the genuine good they do -- warms their hearts and makes them feel worthwhile. Twos are most interest in what they feel to be the "really, really good" things in life -- love, closeness, sharing, family and friendship.
Nonono, you can't do that. You can't just take my quote on the purpose of life and pass it off as a Two thing. Tch. My dad sees it as a foolish way to live - too dependent on others than on the self, but aren't humans social animals? If I cannot improve the lives of others around me, then I might as well not be here. It's a belief I hold deeply, as INFJs tend to do, but also like INFJs tend to do, I won't impose it on others. Still, it annoys me how those words feel like they were taken right out of my mouth.
When Twos are healthy and in balance, they really are loving, helpful, generous and considerate. People are drawn to them like bees to honey. Healthy Twos warm others in the glow of their hearts. They enliven others with their appreciation and attention, helping people to see positive qualities in themselves that they had not previously recognised. In short, healthy Twos are the embodiment of "the good parent" that everyone wishes they had: someone who sees them as they are, understands them with immense compassion, helps and encourages with infinite patience, and is always willing to lend a hand -- while knowing precisely how and when to let go. Healthy Twos open our hearts because theirs are already so open and they show us the way to be more deeply and richly human.
I take offence to this greatly. It is like saying that INFJs are unhealthy Twos while ENFJs are healthy Twos because INFJs are anything but open with their own emotions. This description is for the outer appearance of an ENFJ and the hidden inner world of an INFJ. It feels too extroverted for the type to even be vaguely suitable for Introverts. I don't think INFJs attract people...maybe people in need, but not people in general. Attracting people is an ENFJ and ESFJ thing, while INFJs and ISFJs create the feeling of silent companionship more. But people do think Extroversion is better than Introversion, so I understand why the description is the way it is. I wouldn't trade being an INFJ for being an ENFJ because I don't want to swap my functions around (Fe-Ni-Se-Ti feels weird and I like my Ni-Fe-Ti-Se more), but I'll concede that they make better Twos.
However, Two's inner development may be limited by their "shadow side" -- pride, self-deception, the tendency to become over-involved in the lives of others, and the tendency to manipulate others to get their own emotional needs met. Transformational work entails going into dark places ourselves and this very much goes against the grain of the Two's personality structure, which prefers to see itself in only the most positive, glowing terms.
Now it feels more appropriate for ESFJ and ISFJ than for ENFJ and INFJ because the NFJ types are very self-defeating. It is very common for NFJs to beat themselves up over something. We see others in positive terms, but not ourselves...especially INFJs. We, and INFPs, are the emo MBTI types.
Type Two with Three-Wing (The Host/Hostess)
General Description
Average 2/3 is more outward than 2/1. The ambitious vanity of Three combines with Two's desire to be loved and the result is someone who is not afraid to step into the spotlight. 2/3s usually have a seductive, playful side, unlike the more serious 2/1s. The Three-Wing gives them a showy, mainstream kind of appearance-consciousness. The Twoish desire to please others is stronger than the Threeish desire to be admired, although both desires are present.
Like I said, ENFJs, ESFJs and ESFPs.
Balanced and Transcendent States
Healthy 2/3s get beyond the immediate desire to please. Image-consciousness and pride drop away and they become able to experience real, heartfelt love. They no longer need the constant reassurance of someone else's admiring gratitude. Two integrates to Four, opening up new realms creative expression, while the Three goes to Six, bringing in a deeper appreciation for the value of belonging to a real community of friends. They become genuine, loving companions.
Oh my God, I need to go fish up my "How an ENFJ develops" post from Tumblr...somewhere. This is almost the exact thing I read from that. "Reassurance of someone else's admiring gratitude"? Remember the post on MBTI and what they want in love? "ENFJ: Admires me". Yeah, ring a bell yet? "ESFJ: Embraces me". Yup, 2/3 is definitely ENFJ and ESFJ.
An extremely awake 2/3 is someone whose generosity is so continuous and so genuine that it seems to be an inseparable part of the personality. Never is there even the tiniest hint that anything is expected in return -- in fact, extremely advanced 2/3 sometimes becomes so good at giving that the recipient never finds out where the help came from (or even that it has happened). 2/3 saints somehow encourage the universe to shower gifts on others. Generosity comes through them, not from them.
It's so Extroverted, I can't even comprehend the Introverts being over here.
Unbalanced and Unhealthy States
Unhealthy 2/3 becomes less able to restrain repressed desires. In a misguided attempt to get others to meet their (unspoken) needs, they manufacture more imaginary needs to fill for others. Their intrusive, self-satisfied help causes others to move away. 2/3 may hide the resulting loneliness and anger behind an outwardly carefree appearance, but others can usually see there is hypocrisy involved.
*Sniff* One of the top pet peeves of INFJs: hypocrisy.
In the end, very unbalanced 2/3 may break down under the stress. Suddenly the truth will pop out from under the increasingly strained wrappings of self-delusion, and in a desperate effort to paste over the comfortable vision, they may fly into an Eightish homicidal hysteria or sink into Nineish psychotic withdrawal. The repressed feelings of a lifetime may spew out in days or weeks. Relationships that have lasted for years might be discarded like used tissue, leaving others desolate and grief-stricken.
What, so you pull out the rug that you placed under someone's feet? That's...not something I think an INFJ will ever do. We will drag ourselves into withdrawal, but pulling the rug from under someone's feet is just...disgusting.
Type Two with One-Wing (The Servant)
General Description
Average 2/1 combines Oneish judgement with Twoish people-pleasing. 2/1s are tighter and more rigid than 2/3s but less exacting than 1/2s. They regulate their behaviour carefully, in order to stay polite and proper. Overall, they want to put on a happy face, because of repressed anger (from the One-Wing) and repressed person needs (from the Two), their happy face is sometimes pinched with tension. They are less interested in appearing glamorous than 2/3 and are more interested in becoming indispensable than 1/2.
Okay, I need to address at this point that INFJs are supposedly polite and tactful. I'm not. I swear like a sailor, but I've been told by parents that I'm very polite...probably because you don't go around swearing in other people's houses. So it depends on the situation. Also, repression of emotions...INFJs?
Balanced and Transcendent States
Healthy 2/1s almost always find that their true calling involves helping others grow, often children. They become able to help themselves as wisely and lovingly as they help others. They enjoy watching people find their own calling, accepting the delightful differences among us. Sevenish joy from One's integration combines with Fourish depth and empathy from the integration of Two. The result is tolerant, patient celebration of growth and diversity.
That's ISFJ, not INFJ at all. INFJs rarely love themselves, ever. We think ourselves as shitty people, or just not as good as others and that helps us want to make the world even better. Liking children is also more of an ISFJ thing and INFJs see growth more in the sense of emotional growth. Growth as an individual, as part of a society, of society itself. ISFJ see growth as the growth of a child, maturation, learning, etc. So I think 2/1s are actually more ISFJ than INFJ. I think INFJ, because of the N, are actually the more advanced in both healthy and unhealthy states.
Advanced 2/1s are in contact at the same time with deep love and inspired wisdom. They are especially good at helping those who are in the most desperate possible situations. They plunge boldly into terrifying scenes and bring glorious hope, love and healing with them. Usually, it is the least self-sufficient who benefit the most from their endless charity.
There, like I said, INFJ is the more intense one. That's why ISFJs are great kindergarten teachers, teachers in general, while INFJs are counsellors, social workers, etc. We INFJs don't understand the meaning of "chill" in emotional situations. We don't treat material things with intensity, not at all, but when it comes to emotions and working with empathy, we don't understand how you can NOT be intense. If you aren't intense, you aren't being sincere enough. However, I predict that INFJs will also end up on the extreme end of Unhealthy Twos.
Unbalanced and Unhealthy States
Unhealthy 2/1s lose the ability to sense their own needs, and become more likely to actually speak their negative judgements of others. Their increasing self-criticism usually gets repressed, because the vain-glory of the Two is more powerful in them than the guilt of the One. Their inner conflict is as dangerous and powerful of the 1/2, but less visible because it is heavily repressed by self-deception. The most obvious sign of the inner struggle is the increasing tension in their bodies.
Eventually, the breaking point is reached. When Two goes to Eight, violence erupts. In the name of love, manipulation turns into physical coercion. Self-deception reaches amazing levels as destructive acts are rationalised in hard love. Fourish guilt is submerged and converted into further denial. I am doing this for your own good and it hurts me more than it hurts you. In the end, "loving confrontations" may generate such hatred and fear in others that psychotic 2/1 may become the target of violence, as well as the origin.
I TAKE THAT BACK. I'M A 1/2, NOT A 2/1. WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL. Is this super Yandere mode or something? I really don't think that unhealthy INFJs start taking things out on others, it feels more INFP than INFJ. Even for INFP, they don't go to such extents because they are very gentle souls. I need to go research 1/2 instead because the Unhealthy 2/1 seems very, very wrong.
WAIT, I AM A ONE. OK, I'LL DO SOME POST ABOUT THIS TOMORROW. 1/2s are commonly mistaken for 2/1s. 1/2s fall into extreme guilt when unhealthy. YUP, TOTALLY INFJ.
9. MBTI and Candy
ESFP: Cotton Candy
I like watching those street vendors in the theme parks make cotton candy and they're fun to eat, but too sweet.
ENFP: Gummy Bears
I LOVE GUMMY BEARS. Come on, ENFP, can we swap? I don't even know what mine is yet, just swap! I like chewy candies and gummy bears do get too sweet after a while...but they are cute.
ESFJ: Laughy Taffy
Oh, those are really fun to eat too, but once again, way too sweet. Doesn't get as sticky as cotton candy though and doesn't get all over your face.
ENFJ: Gumdrops
I like those really sour ones! Sour candies are great, but are all gumdrops sour? I'm not sure. But this is the kind of candy I have next to me while on the computer and end up overeating because sour sweets are deceptive like that.
ESTP: Air Heads
Those things come in really bright and weird colours...I don't like them.
ENTP: Reese's Peanut Butter Cup
Oh my God, it's diabetes candy! I frigging love it. Do I love it more than gummy bears? I don't know. But I really like it. Once again, it's one of those candies you can't eat too much of because you are probably quite aware that you're eating them. I don't think people pop Reese's into their mouths without thinking.
ESTJ: Dark Chocolate
Please, give me all the dark chocolate. 65-80% dark chocolate please. These are like the gumdrops, except they are bitter, not sour. Because they aren't that sweet, you can eat a lot without getting sick of the taste!
ENTJ: War Heads
I don't like this MBTI, but I sure love the candy! Sour candy is best candy.
ISFP: Hershey Kisses
Depends on the variant. White chocolate. No. Cookies and Cream. No. Original. Maybe. Slightly Dark. Yes. Dark. YES. Come on, I feel like white chocolate cheats me of my money. I bought this bar of chocolate so that I can have some cocoa. If I wanted diabetic sugary milk, I can drink a carton of milk and then take spoonfuls of sugar. That is precisely how you make milk chocolate by the way.
INFP: Tootsie Roll
Oh, you mean that candy that cheated my feelings because I thought it was going to be toffee but it's super sweet? Yeah, I hate it.
ISFJ: M&Ms
Once again, depends on the variant, but this time, it's the filling. I like chocolate with nuts.
INFJ: Gobstoppers
Okay, I said I like soft candy, but this one is an exception. I frigging love gobstoppers, especially the ones that is multilayered and multicoloured. But it's not a good candy to just eat randomly.
ISTP: Lollipop
If there's a candy I dislike more than that white chocolate that cheated me of my money and tootsie rolls that cheated my feelings, then it's lollipop. It's annoying to eat. You have to hold it while you eat or you'll drool everywhere. You look disturbing eating it. And it doesn't even taste that good.
INTP: Nerds
I like Nerds! I prefer the grape flavoured ones but I think all the flavours are good.
ISTJ: Smarties
NO. I really dislike that brand.
INTJ: Robots don't eat candy.
Suit yourself then! I don't have that much of a sweet tooth since I prefer sour and bitter, but still, candy is candy and it makes people happy.
10. MBTI Gifs
ENFJ recovering from depression
Ermmm...welcome to the INFJ club? Enjoy your stay while you're here and don't try to pry? We are always glad to see our extroverted cousins join in our little group once in a while. I don't know. You guys aren't really welcomed in our Introverted corner over here. Please return to your Extroverted station over there, you seem to be lost.
ENTJ when they win
What a little bitch! I know you guys are smart, popular and everything, you don't have to flaunt it! And go and develop that F function of yours before you try any leadership position, please?
ENTP during an argument
ISFJ and INFJ best friends
ESTP Trying to Befriend INFJ
ENFJ-INFJ I Don't Even Know
I was laughing so hard when I first saw this scene in High School Musical because I was silently wishing that he was accidentally fall into the lake. Also, I thought I needed to contact the mental hospital. Well, I can watch this GIF for almost 5 minutes, so it's that funny.
INFP-INFJ Crying Together
When an INFJ Meets Another INFJ (More Rare than A Shiny Pokemon)
INFJ males - less than 0.5% of the male population. I'm screwed. INFJ females are apparently 4 times more common than INFJ males and we are already very rare. NOOOOOOOOO.
ENFJ talking to ISTP
If I had to translate the ISTP's reaction, it says "Bitch, IDGAF".
INFJ brain-fart when trying to talk
INFJ being subjected to small talk
INFJs when they get a book they like
11. MBTI and Hogwarts Houses
By order of preference in the series: Slytherin, Ravenclaw, Gryffindor, Hufflepuff
By order of preference in real-life: Ravenclaw, Slytherin, Hufflepuff, Gryffindor
INFJ: Ravenclaw (YES! I'm Slytherin on Pottermore but I prefer Ravenclaw by traits alone)
ESTP: Gryffindor
INTJ: Slytherin or Ravenclaw
ESFP: Gryffindor
INFP: Gryffindor, maybe Hufflepuff
ESTJ: Slytherin
INTP: Ravenclaw
ESFJ: Hufflepuff
ISFJ: Hufflepuff, maybe Ravenclaw
ENTP: Ravenclaw, maybe Gryffindor
ISTJ: Ravenclaw, maybe Hufflepuff
ENFP: Gryffindor, maybe Ravenclaw
ISFP: Gryffindor, maybe Hufflepuff
ENTJ: Slytherin or Ravenclaw
ISTP: Ravenclaw
ENFJ: Hufflepuff, maybe Gryffindor
My Housemates/Potential Housemates: INFJ, INTJ, INTP, ISFJ, ENFP, ENTJ, ISTP
For Those Sad People who Never Watched/Read Harry Potter
Gryffindor
House Colours:
Crimson/Scarlet and Gold
Animal:
Lion
Element:
Fire
Traits:
Bravery, Nerve, Chivalry, Courage, Daring, Strong of Will
Founder:
Godric Gryffindor - "We'll teach those with brave deeds to their name."
Unique Item:
Sword of Gryffindor
Rivalry:
Slytherin - sneaky, back-stabbing, elitist
Alliance:
Hufflepuff - honestly, acceptance, kindness
Slytherin
House Colours:
Green and Silver
Animal:
Serpent
Element:
Water
Traits:
Resourcefulness, Cunning, Ambition, Leadership qualities, Self-Preservation, Determination, Cleverness, Fraternity, Power
Founder:
Salazar Slytherin - "We'll teach just those whose ancestry's purest."
