Random Nonsense #11: Wasting Some Time

     So this thing I'm reading says that for every corrupt ENTJ-controlled regime, there lies an opposing INFJ-led underground rebellion. And ironically enough, the right-hand man of the INFJ is an INTJ and the right-hand man of the ENTJ is an ENFJ.

     For the:
INTJ: The ENTJ actually sounds more logical and rational, but the INFJ is less boring to work with. Besides the ENTJ, the corrupt regime doesn't contain any other intellectually competent types, as far as the INTJ is concerned, and the ENTJ is way too self-absorbed to converse with the INTJ. The INFJ, despite his tendency to become emotional at times, is surprisingly, an intellectually superior being capable of keeping up with and even surprising the INTJ. What's the harm of participating the the INFJ's cute little rebellion (the INTJ happens to think that the INFJ is just an angry little kitty)?

ENFJ: The ENFJ is actually quite discontent with the way ENTJ is doing things, but unlike the INFJ, he doesn't have half as much a rebellious or revolutionary streak in him. He is far more worried and concerned about destroying what little peace there remains to be and unlike the INFJ, he doesn't support the "all or nothing" notion the introvert is going for. The ENFJ would very much rather effect change from within, serving as the right-hand man of ENTJ, trying to influence the regime's politics as much as they can. Whether it's effective is another story. Most ENFJs, despite their charisma, cannot compete with the more powerful and even more charismatic ENTJ and just become another pawn in the ENTJ's game.

ENTJ: He actually doesn't hate INFJ half as much as you think. He even admires the INFJ's daringness and capability of challenging him. The ENTJ would be lying if he claims to not notice the ENFJ's presence and the ENFJ's silent little rebellion, which brings out the INFJ's daring nature even more. "Now, if only we were on the same side" - the ENTJ would think, because INFJ would make an amazing partner to work with. Sadly, INFJs and ENTJs are always standing on the opposite sides of the fence. Also, ENTJs have an eye out for the INTJ...why is he there when he agrees with me? Is the INFJ actually superior? The threatened ENTJ goes into a more aggressive state.

INFJ: The ENTJ is a lost cause. The INFJ would rather effect change with as little chaos as possible, but the ENTJ is a stubborn and self-absorbed soul, the embodiment of whatever is wrong with the entire regime. The only way to correct the distortions of what could be a beautiful world is to overthrow the ENTJ and subject him to INFJ-style brainwashing. The INFJ admires the ENTJ as much as the ENTJ admires him, but because they lead opposing forces, they can never converge. The INFJ is also more than aware of the INTJ's neutral stance in the entire conflict, but appreciates his intellectual company, that provides the INFJ with insightful and fresh views on the entire event. Upon the first face-to-face meeting with the ENTJ, the INFJ probably also noticed the bastard's right-hand man, who seems to be a misfit. The ENFJ certainly caught the INFJ's eye, but upon further conversation, is dismissed as a coward with potential but unwilling to utilise it.

     Now, for an insightful study on INFJ and their relationships with types that only differ by a single letter:

1. E-I Differences (ENFJ and INFJ)
ENFJ: Fe-Ni-Se-Ti
INFJ: Ni-Fe-Ti-Se

(a) Ni-Fe vs Fe-Ni
     For amateurs of the MBTI system, to have 2 functions reversed is no big deal, but as someone who has read up extensively about how functions work, I will tell you bluntly that, it makes a huge difference. The important thing to note is that auxiliary functions and dominant functions play vastly different roles in a person's personality.
(i) The Dominant Function
     A person's dominant function develops so early and so naturally in their lifetime that most believe that they are "born with it". For the ENFJs, they are born with their Fe (like the ESFJ), or their ability to care about others and be concerned about those around them. For the INFJs, they are born with their Ni (like the INTJ), or their ability to foresee and predict the future based on little or no physical evidence.
(ii) The Auxiliary Function
     The auxiliary function is developed later in childhood in an attempt for a person to balance out their dominant function. An extroverted dominant function is paired with an introverted one and vice versa. This ensures that the individual will have an equally enriching outer life as compared to their already rich inner life (introverts) or vice versa (extroverts). For the ENFJ, they develop Ni in order to gain better insight into people's actions without direct prying, allowing their Fe to become more effective, i.e. care for other's better. For the INFJ, their Fe develops to feed information into their Ni, i.e. through caring for others, they understand human nature better.

     It is very different, as you can see. INFJs are actually much colder and more detached, as introverts should be. INFJs care in order to understand, ENFJs understand in order to care. But when an INFJ and ENFJ are placed together, it may seem like they are the same person if their auxiliary functions are well-developed. The INFJ's well-developed Fe may overtake their objective need to understand human's, making them compassionate beings. The ENFJ's well-developed Ni may take the facade of the INFJ's almost psychic-like ability to predict the future.

     What differentiates them, therefore, is their base state, i.e. their personality when their auxiliary functions are ignored. It is actually quite observable, since ENFJs are more prone to directly asking a person how they feel, while INFJs are more prone to silent observation. By dominant functions, ENFJ's Fe leads them to answer the question "How are you? How can I help?" while INFJ's Ni leads them to answering "What will it become? What role do I play?"

(b) Ti-Se vs Se-Ti
     Once again, a reversal of functions makes two people very very different.
(i) The Tertiary Function
     Where the auxiliary function aims to balance out the dominant function, the tertiary function enriches and deepens the dominant function. Thus, an introverted dominant function has an introverted tertiary function and vice versa. The tertiary function's role in a person's personality is to give them more depth to their dominant function. The INFJ's Ti function is a function that enables silent contemplation with rational and logical processes, enriching the Ni function, which is more "gut feeling". INFJs are intellectual precisely because they are the type to silently and carefully contemplate their Ni with their Ti, forming theories and beliefs that seem intellectually superior to that of other types (except INTJ [explained later]). The ENFJ's Se function is a function that grounds the ENFJ to their external surroundings. The INFJ detaches from the external world and that is one primary flaw of the INFJ. ENFJs do not have this problem because they are always more consciously aware of those around them as opposed to being aware of themselves. Se is a function that enriches human interaction on the surface level, allowing the ENFJ to be more social than the INFJ can ever be.

(ii) The Inferior Function
     The inferior function is also a stress function, i.e. the function you turn to when stressed. For the INFJ, their inferior function is Se, thus leading to a habit of the INFJ to turn towards alcohol, sex and any other physical stimulation when stressed. It is actually quite easy to understand why. With the combination of Ni and Ti, with Fe serving as the only mechanism to balance out both, INFJs are not self-absorbed, per se, but just very detached from the external world. Fe feels emotions and INFJs thus see the external world as a bunch of emotions that can wear down and push them further into social withdrawal. Se fishes them out of it, it distracts them from their messy inner world. When INFJs drink, smoke, have casual sex or inflict self-harm, the goal is to create a physical stimulation great enough to silence everything in their minds. ENFJs conversely, turn to Ti, which in an unhealthy state, makes the ENFJ extremely rigid in their views. They become closed off from outside opinion, believing that their views are the best. This is in contrast with the INFJ because ENFJs are feeling too pressured by the outer world. Many ENFJs never reach this state, probably because the ENFJ's flaw lies in being too unaware of themselves.

     It makes them very different. INFJs, when stressed, become very social and indulge in very unhealthy activities, which they will eventually regret and then drive them even further into stress. It is easy for the INFJ to spiral out of hand and what the INFJs need to do is to get in touch with their Ni and be reminded of their overarching goals in life. ENFJs, when stressed, become so rigid and so uncompromising that it probably takes a knock to their heads to remind them that "Hey, you are hurting others. You'll regret it". INFJ's corresponding knock in the head goes something like "Hey, this isn't you. You'll regret it".

(c) Similarities
     Hey, but INFJs and ENFJs are the most compatible type when it comes to growth because each will teach the other how to develop their auxiliary functions. ENFJs teach INFJs how to communicate their Ni; INFJs teach ENFJs how to add more depth to their thoughts and beliefs. E-I pairing are meant to be very compatible towards emotional growth and maturity.

2. N-S Differences (INFJ and ISFJ)
INFJ: Ni-Fe-Ti-Se
ISFJ: Si-Fe-Ti-Ne

(a) Dominant Functions and Perception of the World
     To have opposing dominant functions makes 2 people polar opposites. Si is a function that trusts evidence from the past - what is proven to be good, to be right. Ni is a function that trusts flashes of intuition, with no evidence whatsoever. They are functions that directly oppose each other and thus, ISFJs and INFJs, while able to be best of friends due to matching auxiliary and tertiary functions, are usually unable to comprehend each other's world views. Ni gives the INFJ a lofty outlook towards life - ambitious, grand, unrealistic, humanitarian. Si makes the ISFJ cautious, pragmatic, family-oriented and realistic.

(b) Inferior Functions 
     While the inferior functions are opposing, the unique correlation between INFJ and ISFJ makes them very good friends in dark times. Se is allowed to transition back to Ni in the INFJ through the careful reigning back by Si. Si helps the INFJ to draw back from the extroversion of their Se to have time to reconsider and re-evaluate in private. Similarly, Ne, a function that when unhealthy, causing flitting and unstable mental states, is balanced by the Ni. Ne is a function that generates many possibility from one thing, Ni is a function that takes many things and forms an intricate pattern or theory. Ni thus holds back Ne and allowed ISFJ to take a step back and regain their hold onto what is trusted and tried - Si.

(c) Similarities
     While Si-Ti doesn't work half as well as Ni-Ti, because Si-Ti allows processing of what is tried and tested instead of what is new and unknown, it still gives the INFJ and ISFJ a compatibility that is quite rare. However, this may be one-sided (I know from experience) because while the INFJ will be interested in listening to the ISFJ talk about the tried and tested, the ISFJ will most likely dismiss the INFJ's Ni-Ti as ridiculous and unrealistic nonsense. It is far too theoretical and Si is not meant for theory-formation. Fe ensures that the friendship is maintained because both will consciously (auxiliary) ensure that harmony is kept between them.

3. T-F Differences (INTJ and INFJ)
INTJ: Ni-Te-Fi-Se
INFJ: Ni-Fe-Ti-Se

(a) Different Paths
     INTJs and INFJs are an exception to the T-F rule in general, because of the rarity of Ni-dom and the connection it brings. Both are born with the ability of foresight and as children, are the quiet kind of kid who rarely says anything but when they do, they blow adults' minds. However, when the time came to develop their auxiliary functions, the two are like the same people who chose different paths. INTJs and INFJs are basically carved from the same stone, but moulded to different purposes.

     Te is theoretical, rational and concerned with how the world works in a more scientific manner. Why do people cry to the INTJ is a question of what combination of chemicals makes this happen? Fe is concerned with human relations and interactions, caring for people emotionally. Why do people cry to the INFJ is instead a question of what is wrong that causes people to be upset? INTJs and INFJs chose different areas to use their Ni - INTJs want to understand the physical world around them, INFJs want to understand the people and their relationships.

     Nonetheless, when INTJ and INFJ come together, there is an immediately attraction, not in the romantic sense or anything, but the feeling of an Ni-dom intuitively sensing the presence of another Ni-dom. INFJs are perhaps more prone to it, since Fe makes them more conscious of humans, but there is an Ni-dom connection that is a rarity in the MBTI sphere. It is not INFJs that are rare, it is Ni-dom that is. That is why INFJs and INTJs are the two rarest MBTI types.

(b) Intellectual Superiority
     INFJs, as much as they would deny it, are as caught up in intellectual pursuit as the INTJs are. INTJs are less subtle about this - they look down on those who are deemed to be not as competent. INFJs will never openly admit it, but they refrain from holding certain conversations with people they deem to be less competent. It's not that they think you are stupid, it's just that they understand that not everyone has the time to have such depth to their thoughts and beliefs, and thus, conversations with such people tend to be quite dull.

     In fact, as an INFJ myself, I can say that no other type besides the INTJ has given me as much intellectual stimulation. INFJs and INTJs alike have very insightful and fresh views about the world that initially seem bizarre, but are actually very well thought out. This is attributed to the similarity between Ni-Ti and Ni-Te. In fact, Ni-dom with a tertiary Ti acts almost the same way as Ni-Te dom-aux. It's just that for the INTJ, they do not have an Fe in the way that makes INFJs so much more emotional and warm. In fact, an INFJ with severely underdeveloped Fe cannot be differentiated from an INTJ.

    So, if you aren't an INTJ/INFJ and you try to say something you think is creative and insightful to an INTJ/INFJ, don't be surprised if they raise an eyebrow and say "You've just thought of that now? I was thinking about that the moment I was born!" Let's face it. INTJ's motto in life is that "Boredom is a disease of the intellectual mind unable to find an equal." It's INFJ's motto as well, but you know, they don't want to hurt your feelings?

4. J-P Differences (INFJ and INFP)
INFJ: Ni-Fe-Ti-Se
INFP: Fi-Ne-Si-Te
     Honestly, there is not a single function that we share. J-P is the most misguiding difference in MBTI. It's just one letter, yes, but it makes it such that not a single function is shared. I think this article says it better than I ever could...or could ever bother to:

(i) Different Driver Processes
     The Driver process can also be called the "dominant cognitive function." It's the mind's first point of contact and the primary lens through which everything gets filtered.

     For an INFJ, this dominant process is technically called Ni, but we've nicknamed it "Perspectives". Perspectives is a learning function (technically called a "perceiving function), and works by watching one's own mind form patterns. After years of use, eventually Perspectives begins to see the "pattern of the patterns" and understands that what is happening inside themselves cognitively is also happening for other people.

     INFPs, on the other hand, lead with a process called Fi, which we call "Authenticity". Authenticity is a decision-making function (technically a "judging function") and works by being deeply in touch with how one is emotionally impacted by events. Decisions are made by "checking in" to ensure that they are in alignment with one's values and identity. There is a saying that the more personal something is, the more universal it is. Over time, Authenticity understands that they aren't alone in their feelings. They are simply more aware of them than other types.

     Already, there's a major difference in how these two types see the world.

     INFJs are leading with an intuitive, learning process and INFPs are leading with a feeling, decision-making process.

     For many INFPs, it may be surprising to learn that they lead with a decision-making process, since decisions can be gruelling for this type. Although Authenticity is truly decision-making, it is the slowest of the four decision-making processes (the other three being Effectiveness [Te], Accuracy [Ti] and Harmony [Fe]). Authenticity needs to be able to register how something is feeling viscerally, and often an INFP won't know the right decision to make until they've made it. It's especially confusing when the Authenticity user can see a case for almost anything, so what's true for them has to be carefully parsed out.

     Each decision and its subsequent emotional impact is catalogued, however, and future decisions become easier and faster. In fact, being so in touch with the emotional fall-out of a decision is how Authenticity eventually creates conviction, knowing in one's "bones" the rightness of something.

     INFJs can also have trouble making decisions, but not for the same reason. Their decision-making process -- technically called Fe that we've nicknamed "Harmony" -- is faster than Authenticity, but secondary for them.

     That is, they lead with Perspectives and Harmony is an auxiliary process. Effort is required to develop the secondary process (that we call the "Co-Pilot") and so when an INFJ finds themselves indecisive, it's because they're spending too much time in their Driver of Perspectives and not enough in their Co-Pilot of Harmony.

     The result may look the same -- indecisiveness -- but the root is entirely different.

     For an INFP, because their decision-making process can take time, it can feel gruelling to be pressured to make a quick call. Each decision needs to be in alignment with the INFP's values and even a decision as simple as what salad to order can be a frustration if, say, their relationship with food has become part of how they define themselves.

     On the other hand, since INFJs are more removed from their decision-making process of Harmony, it's usually over time that they become frustrated with the inability to make a final call. They are less likely to agonise over smaller decisions because not every decision is a reflection of their identity.

(ii) Emotional Significance
     As mentioned, an INFJ's decision-making criteria comes from their auxiliary or Co-Pilot process Harmony. Harmony is technically called Fe, in contrast with INFP's Driver process of Fi (Authenticity).

     Which "attitude" (or direction) the process faces once again shifts focus in a significant way. Both Feeling functions are decision-making. That is, they are mental processes designed to help us evaluate information in order to come to a judgement. Any time you "weigh the pros and cons" of a decision, you're using a decision-making process, and what ends up standing out as important to you is based on which process you're using.

     We nicknamed Fe "Harmony" because we think it adequately describes the criteria this process is utilising. The Harmony person might ask themselves something like..."What get's everyone needs met?" "How do I create harmony both within interpersonal relationships and the context/environment?" In order to know the "right" choice, other people's emotions become the most interesting piece of information. They're ultimately the feedback mechanism needed to determine a decision was the right one, because it's their emotions that tell you if their needs are getting met and/or if they're experiencing any form of conflict.

     On the other hand, Fe is nicknamed "Authenticity" because it's about the individual's emotional experience. It's about checking in with one's own emotions to determine if an action is the "right" one.

Is Authenticity more selfish than Harmony?
     There is some confusion around whether or not Authenticity is "selfish" or "self-centred" in comparison to Harmony. While immature Authenticity can be quite self-indulgent, mature Authenticity is vital for a healthy society. Authenticity is where we experience integrity, the part of us that says it's conscionable to offend our own values. The only way to 1) know one's values and 2) stay true to them is to spend time deep-diving into one's own conscience and subjective emotional experience [I protest. Values are meant to be universal - selflessness and sacrifice - they are universally good, independent of emotional experiences]. On the other hand, Harmony when immature looks more like emotional manipulation and social bullying, while mature Harmony makes sure all of our needs are understood and taken care of.

     If offending others is more offending than offending yourself, you are more likely using Harmony. And if you're willing to be a total pariah in behalf of your convictions, you're more likely using Authenticity. However, some INFJs, accustomed to being misunderstood and feeling like an "outcast" will sometimes identify with the concept of being true to oneself over "society" and identify with this aspect of INFPs.

     But instead of seeing it as a variation of being true to oneself, it's more helpful to see it as "serving other's needs first in order to get your own needs met" (Harmony) vs "honouring one's own experience first in order to honour other's experience" (Authenticity).

(iii) "Absorbing" and "Mirroring"
     This may be the biggest confusion between the two types. It's definitely the source of endless internet battles for supremacy of "who's the most empathetic type." Both INFJs and INFPs have an almost magical ability to understand the emotional human experience. The way they go about it, though, is very different.

     I once heard a description for "empathy" as "Your pain in my heart." For an INFJ, this couldn't be more true. INFJs absorb other people's emotional energy, whether they want to or not. If it's powerful and there -- friend or foe, intimate or stranger -- your pain is in their heart. The combination of Perspectives (getting into other's heads) and Harmony (having other people's emotions on their radar all the time) seems to converge into this superpower (absorbing emotions), a gift I'd venture to say most INFJs would trade away if they could (Well, for a day...before they start missing their sixth sense).

     INFPs, on the other hand, are masters at understanding the emotions themselves. As mentioned before, sometimes Authenticity doesn't know the right decision until it's already been made, and to compensate for this INFPs become consummate role-players. They can manufacture an emotional experience in order to test out what it would feel like, giving them more content to go on at game time.

     Since Authenticity is their Diver process, this ability becomes unconscious competence for INFPs and they may not even register when they're doing it. This is why Authenticity Drivers (INFPs and ISFPs) are easily the greatest actors and performers of all the types. Putting on a new emotion can be as easy as swapping jackets. When in the presence of another person's strong emotion, it's not that the INFP is absorbing it, they're mirroring it. Since this is exceptionally easy for them to do, it's usually a surprise to discover that other people can't come close to this ability.

     The nuance of their ability to mirror another person's emotional experience can feel like absorbing since it's so spot on. But, remember -- this isn't another person's emotion in the INFP's heart. This is years and years of the INFP mapping emotions within themselves and finding the closest proximity to what the other person is experiencing.

     Again, the more personal an experience the more universal, and no one understands this as well as the INFP. "What is the exact feeling I'd be feeling if I were you?" is the Authenticity version of INFJ's "Your pain in my heart."

     If an INFP appears to be constantly self-referencing, it's because they are. They understand you based on understanding themselves. To self-reference is to enable more rewarding interpersonal experiences, though our culture can generate a societal distaste for self-referencing.

     Perhaps, the easiest way to understand the difference in these two styles (INFJ absorbing vs INFP mirroring) is their relationship to time.

     To absorb another's emotion, both the INFJ and the other person (who is emoting) have to be together in real time. This isn't post-processing emotional experience, it's an emotion hitting the INFJ due to energetic proximity.

     For an INFP, it's about finding the emotion the other is -- was -- or will be experiencing within themselves. The emotion can be bound through time via works of art, literature, journals and any/every other way we as people express our emotions [I would be good at understanding bullshit poems if I were an INFP? I know they are emotional and all, but I can't exactly pinpoint what it is I'm getting half the time.]

(iv) Being understood vs Being validated
     Both the INFJ and INFP personality types run into the problem of feeling misunderstood.

     For INFJs, the Perspectives process gives them an insight into other people that is unmatched, and it can be disconcerting to realise other people don't have the same superpower. The result is a lot of one-sided relationships. On top of that, the Perspectives process is itself quite mysterious to other people. Both INxJ types (INFJs and INTJs) learn to keep their speculations to themselves. "Just knowing" stuff feels like precognition to others and can make them uncomfortable.

     INFPs face feeling misunderstood because no one could possibly know them as well as they know themselves. The Authenticity process is a deep pool of nuanced self-awareness, and it's truly impossible to communicate all the variety within themselves to another person. If you peel back the layers, however, it's not that INFPs have a challenge in being fully misunderstood. If anyone else every actually "fully" understood them, that would actually be a bad sign [WHAT?] -- it would mean that the INFP had lost some of their individuality or that they're dangerously close to being too similar to other people.

     Authenticity uses "intent" as one of its primary calibrations for whether or not a decision is right, for both themselves and for others. Oftentimes, when an INFP gets sensitive or defensive, it's because they think their intent is being called into question. When INFPs feel marginalised, they can also feel others insinuating a bad move.

     When an INFP feels "misunderstood", it could be more accurately states that they feel marginalised, discounted and believe others are questioning their motives. The antidote to this isn't "understanding" them better. Most INFPs would say no one could ever truly understand them, anyway. The real antidote is validating their process of making decisions. As in: "I don't have to agree with you, I don't have to know why you believe or feel the way you do, but when I tell you that you have every right to feel the way you do, make decisions based on those feelings and I trust that you have positive intent." If you can sincerely communicate that to an INFP, they will love you forever.

     INFJs aren't nearly as invested in others believing they have good motive [Ah but if it effects good results, doesn't matter if you initially thought badly of me - is what I think]. They are far more likely to be tuned into the motives and motivations of others to give a lot of thought about whether the person believes the INFJ has a positive intent. Where an INFP can lose awareness of other people if they're really excited by an topic, INFJs can never lose awareness of other people [I mean, I do what I do to help others...if I lose track of them, what am I fighting for?]

     In fact, that's why INFJs generally need more alone time than INFPs (not always, but usually). The only real distance INFJs get from other people is when they're truly physically alone and this is generally used tor recharge their batteries for the next trip into the outer world [So if I refuse to leave the house, don't make me. I want to be alone.]

     INFJs are far less interested in validation and are more interested in protection. They don't need you to agree with them, they need to know you're not going to hurt them, even if the fear of hurt is deeply unconscious [I...I don't know. Is this reflected in my naturally suspicious personality?]

     There are some INFPs that have experienced trauma in the past and fear being hurt by others, but that's more a product of wounding than anything intrinsic. The most protected, well-treated INFJ on the planet is still going to have something inside them scanning for people who would be deliberately hurtful.

(v) Persuasion and Leading
     INFJs, using the Perspectives process, often solve problems and persuade others by offering alternative perspectives. In fact, they generally solve problems by shifting perspectives until the solution become clear. They offer these shifts to others as "a-ha" moments [Wow, I actually unconsciously do this. Advice from me often comes from me giving a different way of seeing the problem, like how the other party may see it, thus leading them to understanding what it is that is wrong (I don't know usually. The answer is within themselves.)]

     INFPs, using the Authenticity process, are more masters of emotional Aikido. Since they understand how emotions flow within the self, they can use this to redirect the emotional energy in another person, getting them to feel what they want them to feel [What? I don't get it.]

     Both are powerfully persuasive tactics and both types are represented in famous spiritual leaders. And while each can utilise the other's talent, it seems there's a strong preference for INFJs to bring "insight" and INFPs to bring "inspiration".

Elder Scrolls Music Break
(i) TES III: Morrowind (or Skyrim Dragonborn DLC)
1. Morrowind Theme (Call of Magic/Nerevar Rising)
Lore: Nerevarine is the legitimate reincarnation of the hero Indoril Nerevar as well as the player character and protagonist of Morrowind. The Daedric Prince, Azura, revered by the Dunmer (dark elves) proclaimed that Nerevar would be reincarnated to right the wrongs in Nirn (the mortal fold).


2. Morrowind OST/Skyrim DLC OST: Peaceful Waters


3. Morrowind OST/Skyrim DLC OST: The Road Most Travelled

4. Morrowind OST/Skyrim DLC OST: Silt Sunrise


5. Morrowind OST/Skyrim DLC OST: Blessing of Vivec
Lore: Vivec, Warrior-Poet deity of the Dunmer and "vi" in the Almsivi, was the Guardian God-King of the holy land of Vvardenfell, and ever-vigilant protector from the dark gods of the Red Mountain, the gate to hell. He honourably guided and protected the Dunmer for thousands of years until his loss of divinity and disappearance at the end of the Third Era, a sacrifice he not only accepted but helped to bring about. Following his disappearance and the collapse of the Tribunal Temple, he was renamed Saint Vivec by the New Temple and declared a member of the False Tribunal.


(ii) TES IV: Oblivion
1. Oblivion Theme: Reign of the Septims
Lore: The Septim Dynasty was founded by the legendary Talos, who took the Cyrodilic name of Tiber Septim and later established the Third Empire of Tamriel in 2E 897 after decades of conquest, thus marking the end of the Second Era and the advent of the Third Era. The dynasty fell in Oblivion, following the onset of the Oblivion Crisis in 3E 433 when Emperor Uriel Septim VII and his heirs were assassinated by the Mythic Dawn, a cult worshipping the Daedric Prince Mehrunes Dagon. The last Septim heir, Martin Septim, was located, but sacrificed himself to repel the Daedra and seal Mundus off from Oblivion forever, marking the end of the Third Era.


2. Oblivion OST: Harvest Dawn


3. Oblivion OST: Wings of Kynareth
Lore: Kynareth, called Kyne by the Nords and Kin by the Kothringi, is a goddess of the Nine Divinces. She is the strongest of the Sky spirits and is the deity of the heavens, the winds, the elements and the unseen spirits of the air. Patron of sailors and travellers, Kynareth is invoked for auspicious stars at birth and for good fortune in daily life. Some say she is the first to agree to Lorkhan's plan to invent the mortal plane, and provides the space for its creation in the void.


4. Oblivion OST: Glory of Cyrodiil


5. Oblivion OST: Peace of Akatosh
Lore: Akatosh, known as Auri-El to the Aldmer and Bormahu (Father) to the draongs, is the chief deity of the Nine Divines. He is present in every Tamrielic religion except that of the Dunmer. His avatar is a dragon, and he is often called the Dragon God of Time. He is generally considered to be the first of the Gods to form in the Beginning Place; after his establishment, other spirits found the process of being easier and various pantheons of the world emerged. He embodies the qualities of endurance, invincibility and everlasting legitimacy while promoting the virtues of duty, service and obedience.


(iii) TES V: Skyrim
1. Skyrim Theme: Dragonborn
Dragonborn: A Dragonborn (or Dovahkiin) is a mortal blessed with Dragon Blood by Akatosh, the Father of Dragons and chief of the Divines. Those with the blessing have an extraordinary aptitude in the use of the thu'um, being able to absorb knowledge of shouts directly from the souls of slain dragons. This ability nreeds fear and hatred in dragons, as the removal of their souls severs their immortality and renders them beyond the reach fo any necromancy. The title is most often associated with the "Dragonborn Emperors" of Tamriel, who are in a divine covenant with Akatosh which maintains the barriers between Mundus and Oblivion (Oblivion Crisis of 3E 433 was triggered because the Dragonfires died out with the death of Uriel Septim, weakening the barriers for Mehrunes Dagon to invade Mundus).


2. Skyrim OST: Sovngarde
Lore: Sovngarde is the Nordic afterlife. Those who are valiant in life are rewarded with an eternity here in the Hall of Valor, where they eat, drink, drawl and sing. Sovngarde is a realm within Aetherius to which valiant Nords go upon death, with the exception of any Nords afflicted with lycanthropy. Werewolves do not go to Sovngarde upon their deaths as their souls belong to the Daedric Lord Hircine and reside within his realm in Oblivion and join the great hunt.


3. Skyrim OST: Dragonslayer (Battle Music vs Dragons)
Lore: Dragons or dov are a rarely-seen race of large reptilian beasts. They are rumoured to be from Akavir (which literally means Dragon Land) though there are ancient tales of dragons also coming from Atmora. As the immortal children of Akatosh, they are specially attuned to the flow of time and they feel an innate urge to dominate others that is difficult to overcome. In the mind of a dragon, being powerful and being right are the same, thus they make no distinction between speaking and fighting; battles between them are actually deadly verbal debates (e.g. Fire Breath is made of 3 words in the dragon language - Yol (Fire), Toor (Inferno) and Shul (Sun). They are just speaking to each other).


MBTI Stuff, like finally, right?
1. Idealists on Deviantart
ENFP
Mood: Silly
Watching: INTJs in their natural habitat: the lab! How fascinating!
Reading: MBTI safari guidebook
Listening to: whatever sounds there are I guess
Eating: Rainbows
Drinking: Rainbows
Playing: Chess with the INTJs! I won!

INFP
Mood: Inspired
Watching: TV shows that give me the feels
Reading: books that gives me the feels
Listening to: Birds singing their songs as they live their lives in this strange but beautiful world
Eating: Dragonfruit! I feel mystical.
Drinking: Honey, nature's finest
Playing: With my dog!

INFJ
Mood: Affected by the current atmosphere
Watching: Mystery shows
Reading: The Magic 8 Ball my friends gave to me as a joke when I told them I'm an INFJ
Listening to: Stories that people tell me
Eating: Mystery-flavoured candy (I'm curious what the most common flavour is, besides mystery)
Drinking: Mystery-flavoured soda, like I didn't even know these existed
Playing: Clue. I'm not psychic. I just really like mysteries.

ENFJ
Mood: Affected by the current atmosphere
Watching: The changes in energy of the crowd
Reading: People Magazine (my friends gave it to me as a joke because they claim I am good at reading "people")
Listening to: The white noise of conversations
Eating: Fortune cookies with my friends and comparing our fortunes
Drinking: Fruit Punch
Playing: Super Smash Bros with my friends...or bros...I guess

2. Because I'm Ready to Give Snarky Comments

(i) Tell them you're smitten by their mind.

     Why, thank you? Now, let's figure out whether I've smite you with my mind because a) you are too incompetent yourself, or b) you are actually intelligent enough to be interesting. I'll take a bet that it's a) because, really, no other types besides INTJ has ever interested me with their intelligence...and INTJs are very insensitive, so that undermines their intellectual attractiveness. Like I've said before, it's not a good idea to present an idea to an INFJ and expect her to act like she's never heard about it before...chances are, she either doesn't care or she has already considered it years ago. 

(ii) Skip the small talk, they're an ocean. Please leave the shore.

     Or, you could stay on the shore because I sure as hell did not allow you to tread into the ocean. By chances are, if you remain on the shore long enough, I'm either going to forcefully evacuate you or draw you into the ocean, so well, you can remain standing there.

(iii) If they say "I want to be alone", leave them alone.

     Yes, because if I want to be left alone, do not blame me if I decide to make dinner out of your corpse if you disturb me. I am very cranky and very quick to anger when I'm trying to have personal time and get disturbed.

(iv) If they say "I feel lonely", hug them.

      Bitch, do it. Just because I'm glaring at you as if I'm threatening to kill you doesn't mean I don't want a hug. I want a hug, give me a goddamn hug. I'm lonely. I want a hug. But I sure as hell won't say it out loud. Not on my goddamn life.

(v) When they tell you they don't want to go out because they're "sick", know that they're lying and let them know they don't have to.

     Thank you. Now, you can fuck off too...or...I could get a hug, please? And maybe...just stay here, you know...

(vi) Leave the party hand-in-hand when they get overwhelmed.

     Frigging just hold me, okay? I'm freaked out by the amount of noise and people inside.

(vii) Listen hard for the growl of their spirit so muted anyone could miss it.

     You mean which growl?

3. This Video Because I'm Lazy

     Holy shit, bro. It's disconcerting when you reveal so much about us at once. Shush.

Random Nonsense #5

     I accomplished a miracle today. I found a fellow INFJ, and on top of that, a male INFJ. That's like...around 1% of the world population. Can't believe I got lied to this whole time though. I've never known him particularly well, since he's the friend of a friend, but still...I thought something was off when he said he's an INTJ. You can't be an INTJ and be so understanding towards my bizarre problems and/or not mock them. That's just not possible.

I can't believe it! Senpai is an INFJ too! 

     I guess it was stupid of me not to predict it earlier. It was quite hilarious how from the first time we met, there's this kind of "I know that feel bro" relationship between us (given that our mutual friend was completely lost as to what was going on half the time). It's not even the "I'll try to understand you" kind of feeling that the other NFs give off - it's that we COMPLETELY get each other. It's kinda freaky, but kinda cool too. Though it's never good to leave 2 INFJs alone for too long or they will abandon all life responsibilities and go contemplate the meaning of existence in some remote corner of the earth.

      And so I was inspired to go read more INFJ stuff, of course, with other MBTI types distracting me everywhere. I was inclined to just make this a pure INFJ post, but meh, I have time and I'm bored.

1. So Apparently the ENFP/ENTP Match is Dependent on Gender

     Okay, that's great. So tell me where, WHERE is my ENTP? Excuse me? I think I'm missing my order of 1 male ENTP and I would like to demand that my order be attended to as soon as possible. There has already been a delivery of one female ENTP, an order which I did not make, and I am very satisfied with the quality of the product. In fact, I think I want to subscribe to the ENTP channel for more of such products so HURRY UP. Tch, seriously. I hate it when those personality websites are all like "You're compatible with ___" and my answer is "That's GREAT! I don't know anyone like that!" *claps and cries*

2. Something Wrong with This Chart, Seriously

      Would someone like to explain why for NFs, it's either "It's Got a Good Chance" or "Uh-Oh, Think This One Through"? So basically it's either, "Wow, such a good match you are probably the OTP of everyone you know" or "Your best friend, your best mate, your mom, your dad, your grandma, and everyone you know strongly disagree with this relationship". On the other hand, NTs don't have any bad matches? Seems legitimate. Also, here's that INFJ with ENTP/ENFP bullshit again. Thanks guys, I need to be reminded about how I don't know anyone typical of those 2 types. THANKS. 

     Also, good job ENFJ, going beyond the NF stereotype and taking a chunk out of the red. I hope you're proud of ruining the nice red rectangle. Wait...INFP and ISFP...does this mean that ENFJ likes the cute, innocent and super loli types? Can I now assume that every anime character with "Little Sister Complex" is an ENFJ?

3. MBTI Asshole Index (NFs)

Disclaimer: This is a personality test for the sick ones, the mentally sick ones. [OMG, they made this for me!]

ENFP

     Slightly hippyish, the ENFP is often one to black out after one drink. They will not stop pestering you with their ideas and they will usually not understand your feelings either. Very common, these idiots are not ones to bother with being consistent in their statements, and arguing with them will be frustrating as they've forgotten the beginning of the issue once you've explained why they're wrong about the tangent they brought up. The apt animal comparison would be "goldfish". Nothing fazes them and everything is interesting as long as it's in sight.

I don't think that's bad. I mean, the dumbest and most easily distracted people are often the happiest people and it's good to be happy. It's a refreshing change from the usual kind of people, you know.

     They are usually happy, not having found anything to be unhappy about. Spending time with an ENFP is difficult, considering not many have the patience to listen to their stupid ideas. These are the people who get tribal tattoos and think that makes them part of a tribe. ENFPs are like reverse nihilists, in that they believe in everything you tell them.

Perhaps why they are compatible with us. INFJs easily depressed and it's good to have such an optimistic person in our lives. Also, tribal tattoos? No, I think all INFJs will be willing to listen if an ENFP has something to say...they are very fascinating in their own ways (because you know - How are you that happy?)

     Being in a relationship with an ENFP is a challenge; expect to do all the work for little reward. While you might find that, during an initial period of falling in love, you really do connect with an the ENFP, this is just due to them being so plastic and vapid that anything deeper than, say, an army boot is too hard for them to understand, so they'll just parrot whatever you said. You are probably an INFP since you didn't notice this.

Hmmm...I don't think anyone can be that shallow and still be alive on this planet. But it's supposed to be a harsh post criticising every MBTI type at their negative extremes.

INFP

     INFPs are not concerned with the material world, anything that matters to them happens inside their heads. They are the kid in the back of the class who understands nothing and believes themselves to understand it all, which is why they never ask questions, and always make assumptions. If you correct their assumptions, they are likely not to hear you.

Again, I don't think that's possible. If you can retain that kind of personality after this many years alive, it's a talent.

     In the grand scheme of things, INFPs forgive everyone, perhaps because of the lingering doubt that anything they perceive is truly there. Their animal totem would be the stupid, drooling, cute dog.

Oh, you mean the spirit animal of their most compatible type? *snickers* Yeah, figures. 

     Sometimes, the actual real world penetrates the foggy glass of their John Lennon-style rose-coloured shades, and they are prone to extreme depression when this happens. Usually, the best way to get them out of this is distracting them with something shiny, or make a doll of the friend they lost they can keep as a substitute. Since you considered doing this creep thing, I can but assume you're an ISFJ, so get away from me, get far away.

Yandere? Anyway, that's not too bad. Prone to extreme depression when this happens...well, at least you aren't depressed all the damn time. Seriously, I think if you take an average of the extent of depression an INFJ and an INFP experience in their lifetimes, it would be the same. Except that for the INFJ, it's constant, but for the INFP, it's periodic and much stronger. 

     They are likely to find meaning in meaningless things, and relationships with INFPs end typically because of imagine sights or the realisation that nothing you've said for the last fourteen months have even been processed by their brains. If you leave, it might take them up to three weeks to notice, had you been living together.

Hey, this actually makes me want to comfort INFP even more. Come on, just because the INFP sees meaning in something you can't see meaning in does not necessarily make it universally meaningless. Also, this is the kind of people I worry about excessively when they get into relationships because they are 1. very hopeful (as all NFs are, admittedly) 2. very delusional 3. prone to extreme emotional breakdown + outburst when things go wrong.

ENFJ

     Like rattlesnakes, the animal associate with them, the ENFJs have an inexhaustible patience. They give the air of being a wise mentor, when really they just want you to do their bidding. They often run several schemes at once. They do not consider you a friend, even though you might consider them one. They consider you an asset or, at most, an acquaintance. 

Perhaps this is why ENFJ and INFJ are one of the E-I pairs who don't get along. Whereas INFP and ENFP spells disaster for other people besides themselves, I think all INFJs are inherently fearful of ENFJs. INFJs are paranoid and ENFJs are known for the being the type with the most hidden agendas. You can see how that works out brilliantly.

     Adept at manipulation, the ENFJ has gone far as to make themselves believe whatever it is they are saying, fooling lie detectors and even the greatest mentalists. They can usually do this as they have a hollow where their soul should be, and it can easily be filled with fakes. Pretending to be otherwise is easy for them. They do have feelings, such as "I'm worth all the money in the world," or "everything I see is mine."

That's a little too harsh...maybe? I don't know. If they can fool the best lie detectors, INFJs are the best lie detectors and I'm a shitty INFJ, then how am I supposed to know whether this judgement is too harsh or I'm just too naive? I mean ENFJs are associated with "Hero Complex", which in itself means that their "heroic" deeds are fake or exaggerated. 

     In an office workplace, the ENFJ is the snitch you never notice. The ENFJs are drawn towards jobs without glory, such as paparazzis, where they can observe the people who do feel love and destroy it for them.

Now THAT is too harsh. Though...I suppose they'll make the perfect villains then.

INFJ

     INFJs are fond of themselves. They try to have friends but they often do not get past the "hello" phase". They prefer non-interactive media, which is why they predilect for poetry and prose. They fucking paper will not fucking talk back to them.

Oh, then I must be a really healthy INFJ since I dislike poetry, prose and prefer talking to actual people than writing. Nice.

     In the rare occasion that they do manage to befriend someone (after alternating between telling a potential friend too much and then too little about themselves, perhaps they found a balance for once), the INFJ listen to others and then they pretend that the anecdotes relayed to them were the ones they experienced themselves. This way, everything can be about them.

Hmmm, the thing in the bracket is true but besides that, I can't even relate. Isn't the pretend to understand anecdotes an INFP thing, not an INFJ thing? Also, I would really not want to pretend I experienced the anecdotes myself because I'm depressed enough already.

     INFJs often want to change the world, but what they don't realise is that they, themselves, need to change. The INFJ animal is a badger. Badgers are dumb. Badgers won't fucking let go if they bit you, much like an INFJ. INFJs are prone to biting people, the freaks.

Well, I hope you have a nice day too, a day as nice as your attitude. I do realise I need to change, thank you, perhaps that's why we are a suicidal type? I personally think people who haven't gotten close to suicide are either so ignorant of their own flaws they can just live happily in their self-imposed blindness or are really that capable. Badgers are cool, I guess and I'm prone to biting? Well, I hope you enjoy me ripping your arm off then.

4. MBTI Types on the Last Day of School

ISTJ: Double and triple checks all of their graduation forms and papers to make sure they didn't forget to do anything.

That's cool. Hey listen, after you're done with all that, would you like to consider my offer to work as my secretary? 

ISFJ: Makes sure to take a bunch of pictures that they can look through and reminisce in years later.

How about you put down that camera (before I break it) and we just enjoy our last moments together? Pictures can only capture so much.

INFJ: Starts envisioning what everyone is going to be like at the ten year anniversary.

Bitch please, I'm already doing that and we still have 4-5 months to go. Also, there are 2 assumption there: 1. I will actually be alive to envision anything 2. I will be alive in 10 years

INTJ: Is already mentally preparing for college too much to care about what anyone else is doing in the meantime.

Admittedly the most logical and reasonable thing to do actually.

ISTP: Grabs the mic at graduation, yells something obscene, and then drives off into the sunset on their motorcycle.

Hahahaha, these people are so cool. Erm, just take care and don't get yourself into an accident or something, okay?

ISFP: Has an extremely cute decoration for their graduation cap that is way more artistic than everyone else's.

Awwww...that's so adorable. I think they are the Makita Yuuri of real life, aka real Lolis. 

INFP: Sings a song at the graduation ceremony that has extremely emotional and poetic lyrics.

Really, INFP? Aren't they too shy to sing in front of people?

INTP: Gets very confused as to why everyone is crying at graduation and tries to run away from anyone who tries to take a picture with them.

Well, figures that these people don't understand the idea of sentimentality and stuff like that. But still, take me with you! I don't want to take pictures either!

ESTP: Strips nakes and runs across the field during the graduation ceremony. 

Do you want to get castrated? Because that's how you get yourself castrated. Put on some clothes you social disgrace!

ESFP: Does some sort of performance/speech/etc. at the graduation ceremony and then gets extremely drunk at the parties later that night.

Probably the type that will get you into trouble, but fun people to stick around with anyway. They will make the last night of your school life memorable...just make sure you don't get drunk.

ENFP: Immediately embarks on a road trip right after the graduation party, after which they are never heard from again.

TAKE ME WITH YOU~

ENTP: Is the main person in charge of coming up with ideas and a plan of action for the senior prank.

That's why ENTPs are such lovely people. Light-hearted pranksters who are extremely smart. What's not to like about them...except them not understanding emotions...Oh well, they are optimistic enough to chase away whatever pessimism, I suppose!

ESTJ: Is very fastidiously organising the graduation ceremony, making sure everyone goes at the exact right time they are supposed to.

Thanks boss, just tell me what I need to do and if you need help, okay! I'll just sit here and daydream in the mean time. 

ESFJ: Hosts a graduation party that night that everyone in the school ends up at because they are so popular.

Meh...I'll think about it. Too many people - too noisy, but it's a graduation party.

ENFJ: Delivers a perfectly emotional, sweet speech at graduation that makes all of the parents cry.

While the students below scowl and roll their eyes. INTJ's probably already snuck out of the hall and gone to I don't know where. TAKE ME WITH YOU. I don't like sitting through this cheesy shit. Is it normal for an INFJ to feel like this kind of speeches are disgustingly fake and would rather tear their ears off?

ENTJ: As part of the student council, organises the graduation night and most of the other activities.

Why are you guys always so serious. Sheesh. I don't like you people.

     Actually, I have a texting conversation right now. So I'll just leave this here.

Was Actually Dying to Make a Post

     So I ended up messing up my studying schedule by introducing Math into the first week when it was supposed to be purely Econs. It's not a bad thing though, since I was starting to get bored with the schedule. I'm now thinking of alternating between subjects, but the first two weeks are still dedicated to Math and Econs, and History and Lit will come later. Really, I'm just avoiding topics that take more brain power. I've been a Science student long enough that studying for more Science-y topics, aka topics that require memorisation and application of theories, is really easy.

     Also, I'm already done with the Year 5 topics for both Econs and Math, so I really have no idea why people can study through the whole holidays. I'm not mocking them, really, I'm surprised and very impressed. I wish for such dedication and hard work, but often when I see no point in doing something that doesn't interest me, there's nothing in the world that can make me do it. It's impressive how people can study for an entire year without break. That's something that's just completely impossible for me.

     Anyway, I read this article about the perspective of Love from 4 MBTI perspective. I'm quite surprised that they aren't using the NF, NT, SP and SJ groupings. In fact, they are utilising a different system, based on decision-making processes. I don't think there's a need for me to rephrase or summarise the details, so I'll probably just copy it out and comment here and there.

MBTI Types and Love
How the 16 MBTI personality types correlate to the Genius System:
- All FJs use the mental process "Harmony" to make decisions
ESFJ, ISFJ, ENFJ, INFJ
- All FPs use the mental process "Authenticity" to make decisions
ESFP, ISFP, ENFP, INFP
- All TJs use the mental process "Effectiveness" to make decisions
ESTJ, ISTJ, ENTJ, INTJ
- All TPs use the mental process "Accuracy" to make decisions
ESTP, ISTP, ENTP, INTP

     The "decision-making" mental processes (Harmony, Authenticity, Effectiveness, Accuracy) are ways we evaluate the world and determine their rightfulness, truthfulness and importance to us as people.

     Every personality type has a tendency to overvalue their criteria, and unless you understand the concept of different types, it's very easy to assume others are using the same criteria to make evaluations and decisions. That is, if you're an Effectiveness person, it may be very difficult to understand another person who is using, say, Accuracy. When they come to a conclusion that favours conceptual analysis over what works, the assumption is that that person is being short-sighted and somewhat stupid.

     Since we all do this (to some extent), in a romantic relationship, this can be disastrous. On some level, we "get" that other people see the world differently than we do, but without a solid model, these difference end up becoming gender stereotypes. "Women just want men to listen to them and not solve their problems," or "Men just want to be alone in their 'man cave' when they have problems."

     Since there is definitely a gender skew in personality types, these stereotypes play out often enough that we take them for granted. Real trouble surfaces when we're a personality type not common to our gender but we're still expected to play out the normal "script". When our mate can't "read" or "predict" us (or vice versa!) it can become a serious issue.

1. Harmony (ESFJ, ISFJ, ENFJ, INFJ)
How "Harmony" asks "Do you love me?"
- Do you feel connected to me?
- Will you check in and make sure I'm okay?
- Will you acknowledge and take care of my needs?
- Am I safe with you?
- Do you accept and approve of me?

How "Harmony" answers: "Yes! I love you!"
- I will meet your needs before I meet my own.
- I will check in regularly and make sure you're okay.
- I will do my best to keep morale up.
- I will show you appreciation in whatever way I'd like to be shown appreciation.

How it can be misinterpreted by other types: Smothering, intrusive

2. Authenticity (ESFP, ISFP, ENFP, INFP)
How "Authenticity" asks "Do you love me?"
- Do you think I'm being real with you?
- Do you trust my motives and my intent?
- Will you support me no matter what -- do you have my back?
- Will you give me space to be "me"?

How "Authenticity" answers: "Yes! I love you!"
- I will be patient with your honest expressions.
- I will honour your feelings and identity, even if it's a struggle for both of us.
- I will hold space for you, and give you alone time when you need it.
- I will have your back no matter what the fight is.
- I will trust you have my best interests at heart.

How it can be misinterpreted by other types: Passive, self-absorbed

3. Effectiveness (ENTJ, INTJ, ESTJ, ISTJ)
How "Effectiveness" asks "Do you love me?"
- Will you handle things -- can I rely on you?
- Will you make my life easier, can I relax knowing you're "on it"?
- Will you support my career and/or goals and be self-sufficient?
- Are you loyal?

How "Effectiveness" answers: "Yes! I love you!"
- I will be endlessly loyal on principle.
- I will educate myself on you and learn how you operate.
- I will take pride in you, boasting about your accomplishments even before my own.
- I will protect you.
- I chose you. I continue to choose you. Case closed.

How it can be misinterpreted by other types: Controlling, distance, unromantic

4. Accuracy (ENTP, INTP, ESTP, ISTP)
How "Accuracy" asks "Do you love me?"
- Do you think I'm totally competent?
- Are you impressed with my performance?
- Do you trust that I'm not lying to you?
- Does it make sense that you love me? That you stay with me?

How "Accuracy" answers: "Yes! I love you!"
- I will be rigorously honest with you. If I have a "wandering eye" I will tell you, and provide a solution.
- I will gift you with my precision. I will learn you and give high performance at all levels.
- I will protect you from others, but not from yourself.
- I will never judge you. Instead, I will be there for you when things go bad, no matter why they went bad.

How it can be misinterpreted by other types: Harsh, insensitive, cold

     This somehow makes me think that my favourite mask to wear is the TJ mask, or TP mask on occasion. I have mentioned before that INFJs are probably regarded as rarer than even INTJ (despite taking up the same percentage of population), because most INFJ just don't wear their true self out very often. All INFJs have a mask, often of the T variant, because they are very sensitive to how people judge them and are frankly, very uncomfortable showing their inner workings. INTJs on the other hand, are proud of who they are and will flaunt it.

     I think that everyone will hold all of the above mentioned qualities to some extent. It's just how you prioritise things. For example, protection sounds nice, but as an INFJ, I have to say that if it's protection from outside forces, I can do it well enough myself. The protection I need is protection from myself, which is what Accuracy is clearly not going to give me.

     Generally, Harmony and Authenticity both prioritise the emotional parts of the relationship, as expected, since they are F types. The difference is that FPs tend to extrapolate their own emotions into others. It's the kind of difference I point out in INFP vs INFJ, where INFP mirrors emotions but INFJ absorbs. Basically, an FP will look at a person, sense that something is wrong and search within themselves for a similar emotion. They then fish out that emotion and reflect it back to the person, exuding a sense of understanding. FJs on the other hand, tend to absorb the emotion. We may seem less understanding, because we aren't reflecting the emotion back, but we basically take the other person's emotion within ourselves to be evaluated.

     It's a very subtle difference, but I think the misinterpretations express it the best. When an FP is in love with someone, they will reflect huge amounts of emotions. They will tell you how hurt they are, how much they miss you, etc etc. It's their way of affirming and showing love. Conversely, when an FJ is in love with someone, they will try to maximise satisfaction in the other party, either by staying away from you if they think their company is incompetent, or just staying around you so that they are there when you need them. So the difference when in love is that FPs will exude and externalise emotions while FJs will try to internalise emotions instead.

     On the other hand, I think Effectiveness and Accuracy are very unattractive choices, to be honest. Loyalty from the TJs is a very important quality, but I really think that for an FJ, loyalty is supposed to be innate. Also, I was asked about my opinion on cheating once. My opinion was that if the person cheating was my partner, then I really wouldn't be angry, I would actually be quite concerned. There is clearly something wrong with me - Something I did? Somewhere I went wrong? I would think that when my partner cheats on me, I would be hurt but I wouldn't get angry at them. I think it's a rather FJ thing. FPs may feel the same, but they would probably express the emotion to their partner while FJs like to just let it be and take everything upon themselves instead. On the other hand, I would never cheat...like never. It's an insult to even suggest such a thing.

     For some reason, FP and FJ feel more like a mutual kind of thing, while TP and TJ gives me a feeling of disconnect. I think it's just because I'm an FJ and have quite a fixed view on Love in general. "Harmony" is the right term for FJ, I think because we would rather take things upon ourselves and shoulder the entire burden if it means that it wouldn't threaten a relationship. Of course, ideally, both parties in a relationship should be able to talk things out without such a huge risk, but it's hard for an FJ to communicate with a TJ or a TP, because they aren't as adept in handling emotions. They just aren't very good at understanding why the hell you are throwing such a big fuss over "nothing".

Individual MBTI Types and Mass Matching (because it's the second link below the first one)
1. ISTJ
- Responsible, organising
- Efficient and practical
- Take things seriously, expect others to do this also
- Traditional and conforming
- May not be emotionally available, can hold rigid points of view
- Like formal and informal acknowledge - cards and "thank you"
- Under stress: may withdraw, push too hard to get things done

Best types for relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, INTJ, ISTP, ESTP
Possible types for a relationship: ENTJ, INTP, ENFJ, INFJ, ISFJ, ISFP, ENTP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ESFP, ENFP, INFP
Percentage of the US population: 12-16%

     Really, these people are just terrible I think. Not being emotionally available isn't ideal, but it's alright, but it's the traditional and conforming part plus the rigidity that will probably get on my nerves. I'm fine with tradition and rules and religion and stuff like that, but please, be more open-minded. I'm not attacking you so can you just discuss these with me without getting all defensive or closed-off.

2. ISTP
- Logical, realistic - natural trouble shooters
- Quiet and analytical observers
- Can be detached and overly pragmatic
- Can be uncomfortable dealing with their emotions
- Occasionally seen spontaneous, playful side
- Like to be acknowledges for their problem-solving capabilities
- Under stress: can feel trapped, move impulsively

Best types for relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, ENTJ, ESTP
Possible types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFP, INTJ, ISFJ
Least likely types for a relationship: ISTP, ESFP, ENTP, INTP, ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Percentage of the US population: 5-7%

     Mom, mom! You don't get along with both dad and I. The former is true, but me? Hey! Why am I in "least likely" too? Well, but it's true. She isn't very good at dealing with emotions, whether it's someone else's or her own. My mom is quite a typical ISTP, who lives in the moment and when faced with emotional problems, tend to try to escape by dropped the entire subject down a hole. 

3. ESTP
- Enthusiastic, hands on, adaptable realists
- Enjoy real-life experiences, new activities and challenges
- Happiest when they are in the moment
- Friendly, talkative and outgoing
- Can be too eager for the next experience
- Want to be respected for their need for freedom
- Under stress: may become excessively impulsive

Best types for a relationship: ISTJ, ESTP, ISTP, ESFP
Possible types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISFP, ENTJ, ENTP, INTP, ISFJ
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, INTJ, ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Percentage of the US population: 5-7%

       I can totally understand why I'm under "least likely" for the ESTP. These people are the most detached and unconcerned-with-emotions types ever and that is a bad combination with the INFJ's need for emotional support and the tendency for us to hide it. ESTP can't offer us the kind of support we need and more importantly, can't even tell when a threshold is passed. So probably the type to offend me greatly and not know about it.

4. ESTJ
- Great talkers with strong opinions
- Dependable and responsible
- Find comfort in family routines and traditions
- Organised and orderly, may try to control their partner
- Can be inflexible and impatient
- Want to be acknowledged for keeping things running smoothly
- Under stress: may become hypercritical and controlling

Best types for a relationship: ISTJ, ESFJ, ISFJ, ENTJ, INTJ, ISTP
Possible types for a relationship: ENTP, INTP, ESTP, ESFP, ISFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTJ, ENFJ, INFJ, INFP, ENFP
Percentage of the US population: 10-12%

     It's quite sad to see that ESFJ and ISFJ are best types because some part of me realises that that's only true because ESFJ and ISFJ are the kind of people who will be willingly to bend to other people's demands. Since ESTJ treasures tradition and routines, that is appealing to ESFJ and ISFJ, thus leading them to become more susceptible. It's not surprising that the NF types are just down there and unwilling to be part of this tyranny.

5. ISFJ
- Strong need to belong and have harmony
- Very good with details and the here-and-now
- Trust the lessons of the past, rather than try new things
- Amazing command of the facts
- Do not like confrontation
- Need to be appreciated for their contributions
- Under stress: can become rigid

Best types for a relationship: ISFJ, ENFJ, ESTJ
Possible types for a relationship: ESFJ, ESTP, ISFP, INFJ, INFP, ESFP, ISTJ, ISFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ENTJ, INTJ, ENTP, INTP, ENFP
Percentage of the US population: 9-12%

     I can understand why ISFJ has so few "best types". There are few types that are able to display appreciation openly and freely, and at the same time provide the kind of security that ISFJ needs. While INFJs can certainly feel that the ISFJ needs affirmation, we, unlike our extroverted cousin, ENFJ, are very conservative when giving compliments. We give them when needed and even then, those compliments tend to be toned down. There are so many types like the INFJ, who can fulfill part of the criteria, but the part we can't fulfill is too glaring to be ignored.

6. ISFP
- Gentle, sensitive, compassionate
- Down to earth, prefer action to words
- Modest and reserved
- Can take a long time to get to know
- Hide their vulnerability behind an air of detachment
- Want a deep and intimate connection with their partners
- Under stress: can become passive and withdrawn

Best types for a relationship: ESFP, ISFP
Possible types for a relationship: ESTP, ESTJ, ESFJ, ISTP, ENFJ, INFJ, INFP, ISFJ, ISTJ, ENFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ENTJ, INTJ, ENTP, INTP
Percentage of the US population: 5-7%

     To me, I think the ISFP can be a very endearing type of person. They are like little bunnies, soft, quiet, fluffy. I think it's because of their naturally quiet personality, coupled with a very sensitive heart and detachment from others that make them extremely difficult to get to know. So few people get to know them and thus, even fewer people understand them. This is probably the type with the fewest "best" types.

7. ESFP
- Enthusiasm for the world of real-life experiences
- Energetic and fun-loving, practical
- Spontaneous and flexible
- Can be frustrated by rules and regulations
- Very outgoing, "people people"
- Special concern for children
- Can show a lack of commitment or seem impulsive
- Under stress: may become excessively impulsive, over commit

Best types for a relationship: ESTP, ISFP
Possible types for a relationship: ESTJ, ESFJ, ISFJ, ESFP, ENTP, ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Least likely types for a relationship, ISTJ, ISTP, ENTJ, INTJ, INTP
Percentage of the US population: 6-9%

     These kind of people...seriously...obnoxious. There isn't an E-I pair with differences as big as ISFP and ESFP. Especially as an INFJ, this kind of rift between E-I is huge, given that INFJ is supposedly the least introverted Introvert and thus, there isn't that big a rift between INFJ and ENFJ. Similarly, ENTP is the most introverted Extrovert and so, they don't have that big a difference between ENTP and INTP either. ISFP and ESFP are just opposite ends of the spectrum. If a quiet and reserved person is hard to get to know, so is a loud and annoying person.

8. ESFJ
- Care intensely about people, generously support them
- Desire harmony - this is essential to their well-being
- Take their work seriously, think that others should also
- Traditions are important; as are family events and holidays
- Can be comfortable as leaders
- Can be seen as intolerant (based on their clear sense of right and wrong)
- Under stress: can become excessively emotional, see only the negative

Best types for a relationship: ESTJ, ENFP
Possible types for a relationship: ISFJ, ESFJ, ENFJ, INFP, ISFP, ISTP, ESFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTP, ENTJ, INTJ, ENTP, INTP, INFJ, ISTJ
Percentage of the US population: 10-12%

     Why is my math "student" so incompatible with me? Probably because INFJ are very free souls who gets frustrated when ESFJs try to impose social norms onto them. INFJs do not care for social norms but ESFJs tend to take those things very seriously, way too seriously in our opinions. We are the only NF type under "least likely" so I guess that explains why. Still, I think INFJ still fares better than others in the same list, because at least we know when to start retreating when we've poked an ESFJ too hard.

9. INFJ
- Deep concern for people and relationships
- Live for insight and imagination
- Love of learning
- Deeply concerned with fellowship and harmony; caring and compassionate
- Concerned with the growth of others
- Idealists at heart; value trust in relationships
- Can be seen as stubborn about their own correctness
- Under stress: may be surprisingly critical, can become self-absorbed

Best types for a relationship: ENTP, ENFP, INFJ, INFP, ENFJ
Possible types for a relationship: ISFJ, ESFP, ISFP, ENTJ, INTJ, INTP, ISTJ
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTJ, ESFJ, ESTP, ISTP
Percentage of the US population: 2-3%

     I see another reason why we can't get along with ESFJs. INFJ's love for learning, about things not purely academic, can seem to be a source of instability for ESFJs since they are the type to enjoy stagnancy. One of the most horrifying things that a relationship can do is to stop a person's growth as an individual, stumping their emotional and psychological development. For an ESFJ, that's fine to them. For an INFJ, that's a no-no. There is definitely learning involved in love and aiding in each other's growth. The world is filled with curiosities, how can you stop thinking?

10. INFP
- Skilled communicators
- Often idealistic
- Harmony in relationships is important
- May not be able to get their own needs met
- Excited by new ideas and possibilities
- Creativity is important; artistic activities
- Don't tread on their values - they will bite you
- Under stress: can become outwardly critical of others

Best types for a relationship: ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ
Possible types for a relationship: ISFJ, ESFJ, ESFP, ISFP, ENTP, INTP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP, ISTP, ENTJ, INTJ
Percentage of the US population: 4-5%

     INFPs are basically NF-clique formers, aren't they? Welcome to the NF group, only NFs allowed. They must be awesome people for INFJs to get along, since they get excited by new ideas and possibilities. So please sit down and let me impart to you my latest discoveries and theories, I'm sure you'll enjoy them. Once again, if you compare this to INFJ, it feels like INFP is more inward-looking while the INFJ is more outward-looking. Yet in terms of relationships, INFPs seem to be looking to rely more while INFJ is looking for equality, or ideally, for the partner to seek more reliance on them (I mean, we don't want to share our burdens...it'll hurt you, but please, let me bear yours).

11. ENFP
- Love to talk about what is going on in their lives
- Will encourage their mates to grow
- Need to feel encouragement
- Don't like to say it when their feelings are hurt
- Tend to withdraw to process hurt feelings in private
- Need to hear how much they mean to someone
- Like spontaneous demonstrations of love and respect
- Under stress: may have difficulty saying no and take on too many projects

Best types for a relationship: INFJ, INFP, ENFJ, ENFP, ESFJ
Possible types for a relationship: ENTJ, ENTP, INTJ, INTP, ESFP, ISFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ISTJ, ESTJ, ISTP, ESTP, ISFJ
Percentage of the US population: 6-8%

     I don't know...this seems to correspond nicely with the INFJ, perhaps why they are supposed to be compatible. INFJs will willingly listen to someone talk about their lives, we are concerned about others. ENFP will encourage growth and that's what INFJ strives for. INFJs are also known for counselling and giving people 1-to-1 talks (vs ENFJ's bigger audience kind of talks), which can draw ENFPs back. Still, I don't know someone who is a stereotypical ENFP, so it's hard to say.

12. ENFJ
- Strong desire for harmony
- Love to talk with and learn from others
- Exceptional people skills
- Make decisions based on personal values
- Idealists who need active people contact
- Exude charm, but can overwhelm others with too much enthusiasm
- Under stress: can become rigidly narrow, emotional and irritable

Best types for a relationship: ISFJ, ENFJ, ENTJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Possible types for a relationship: ESFJ, ESFP, ISFP, INTP, ISTJ, ENTP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTJ, ESTP, ISTP, INTJ
Percentage of US population: 3-5%

     This is the type with the most "best types", isn't it? *scrolls up* Yeah, it is. When you put this one next to the ISFP, it makes me feel really sad for the ISFP's plight. Still, I get the feeling from the "Under stress" section that the ENFJ is probably going to be the scariest kind of people when angry, only because they are not easily irritated. ENFJ's qualities, as listed in this, corresponds with INFP and ISFJ (harmony), as well as INFJ (talk and learn). Also, if you have realised, ENFJ has the fewest "least likely".

13. INTJ
- Have assumptions about the way things could be (strong opinions)
- Need to be around other competent people
- Avoid interpersonal conflict, but love a spirited debate
- Can need to feel in control, and be inflexible
- Can appear to be challenging and insensitive (generally not true underneath)
- Tend to avoid emotional risks, tend to keep thoughts and insights to themselves
- They may appear stubborn
- Under stress: may become over-structured, paralysed by seeking perfection before taking action

Best types for a relationship: ESTJ, INTJ, ESTP, ENTJ
Possible types for a relationship: INTP, INFJ, INFP, ENFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTP, ESFP, ISFP, ENTP, INFP, ENFJ
Percentage of the US population: 3-4%

     That is just horrible! Half of the MBTI types are under "least likely"! And out of the company I know that surround a particular INTJ, I'm the only one that's not in "least likely", probably because INFJ and INTJ are supposed to have telepathic links when close enough. You know, the two rarest types with Ni as dominant? Still, INTJs can be very frustrating, because they are both judgemental, yet aren't completely immune to feeling hurt. You can't be judgemental without people disliking you. Also, it offends me to think that INTJs would classify people as "incompetent" because there isn't such a thing as incompetent people. They just never gotten enough help from others.

14. INTP
- Flexible and adaptable
- Want to make sense of concepts, and the world
- Logical and analytical - want others to be logical
- May have great powers of concentration
- Like abstract and symbolic thinking
- Often non-traditional
- May be seen as aloof; out of touch with the world
- Under stress: may feel overwhelmed and misunderstood

Best types for a relationship: ENTP, INTP, INTJ
Possible types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP, ENTJ, ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFJ, ISTP, ESFP, ISFP

     I guess for a healthy and not-killing-herself INFJ, INTPs are great partners because they fuel the INFJs need to understanding the world. Please come and make sense of these concepts for me, INTP, because it's making me highly indecisive and I don't like it. But I don't like making uninformed decisions even more. As a proof, my dad is an INTP and although we have our clashes, when it comes to discussing things that don't immediately annoy him, I find him to be decently good company. Can be a little too rejecting of non-logical arguments, but still, good company.

15. ENTP
- Excited by possibilities, anything new
- Eternal optimists
- Value knowledge and competence
- Gregarious, sociable; look self-confident
- Tend to view people in an objective manner, so they can appear insensitive
- May argue for the sake of argument
- Under stress: may take on too many projects, drive themselves to exhaustion

Best types for a relationship: ENTP, INTP, INFJ
Possible types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP, ESFP, ENTJ, ENFP, INFP, ENFJ
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFJ, ISTP, ISFP, INTJ
Percentage of the US population: 4-7%

      It may be surprisingly for a first time MBTI reader to see INFJ stand so high in compatibility with ENTP. It makes a tone of sense though, when you slowly come to understand their dynamics. ENTPs are excited by possibilities, something that INFJs bring to the table with their theories and natural interest in the world. Their eternal optimism can drag INFJs out of their pessimism. Their objectivity is valuable to the INFJ since INFJs are known to be surprisingly open-minded despite their sensitivities, because we value honestly and sincerity. The MBTI community doesn't ship this for nothing.

16. ENTJ
- Good at analysing and bringing order
- Logical
- Big picture thinkers
- Energetic planners and builders
- Value competence and intelligence
- Hold themselves to high standards
- Confident and assertive
- Under stress: may become hypercritical of themselves and others

Best types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTP, ENTJ, ENFJ, INTJ
Possible types for a relationship: ISTJ, ESTP, ENTP, INTP, INFJ, ENFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFJ, ESFP, ISFP, INFP
Percentage of the US population: 3-5%

     Please, someone tell me why ENFJ is so up there. ENTJs are the kind of people I see and immediately know to avoid, because they are nothing but trouble. They invite trouble and they cause trouble, and are highly judgemental. You can't tell people they are incompetent or unintelligent, that's very insensitive! Instead, how about you help them instead and not impose your standards on them? I feel like I don't want to ever know an ENTJ, unless I can't help it.